In the past months, I started to follow Dr. Jordan B. Peterson. He is a clinical psychologist and professor at the University of Toronto. As a clinical psychologist, he has met a big number of people with problems in their life which helped him to understand deeper and summarise all kind of problems that people stumble. Moreover, his ability to select the right words and manner of speaking made him one of the best speaker who currently lives today.
Questions:
1. Have you heard about this person?
2. Do you agree with his point of view?
3. Have you already decided which goal to pursue in your life?
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2. Yes I can partly agree with his point of view. It reminded me of the imposter syndrom. Doubting about your own achievement, thinking you do not deserve what you have already achieved. Being a good loser is a also great point. Because if we choose always competitions in which we are good at, we will not get reasonably better. We won't feel the struggle, because how? Failing leads to improvement. It's like building a house. Every block stands for a failure. But in the end there will be roof imaging our sucess. For some of us the path is long and hard for others less difficult, but it leads to the same result.
3. Enjoying every minute of life. It doesn't matter if it is work or holidays. There is always something enjoyable in our actions. Lower your expectations, because it will never be as perfect as we imagine. Staying humble, there are many people which had a different start point then you. Being thankfull for what we have instead of complaining what we don't.
I like this video very much. Especially the part with imagining your ideal future and your worst hell. I think every few years people should do this exercise to reorient themselves in life. Our priorities change, we achieve our goals and we need some new to strive. Our brains function in a certain way. We make dozens of small choices each day - what we eat, how we move, what we learn, how we spend our free time, how we talk to others, what we buy etc. We don't really think much about those choices, but they compound, they create our life and they push us in a certain direction. What we eat changes how we look, influences our health. How we talk to people, with whom we spend our time influences our careers, love life and general happiness. So if we set our priorities straight, if we realize what's important once every some time, it will help us pick the choices which will push us in the right direction. And living just day to day will not bring us any closer to a good life. At some point, you will stop and just ask yourself "how did I get here?". And the answer will always be "by making small choices that mattered".
I'm trying to remember about those choices I make and about the future I want to create. Right now my focus in life is to change my career - that's why I'll finish my engineering degree soon and hopefully find a new, satisfying job. And then I'll have to think what kind of future I want to create next.
I did not notice anything cynical in this video in particular. However, there is something that I would like to point out -- the thing, that many religions implement as a tool for guiding people. Hell and Heaven -- they can be encountered in one way or another in any religion. They serve as a reward/punishment for people's actions. While atheists are robbing themselves out of this kind of moralism, and thus, opt to seek the guidance in logic and own judjments, I can argue that the religious concept does not present the optimal solution for this. Amongst all options that I have swept through, surprisingly Satanism concept seems the most logical for me. According to the moralism of that religion, nothing happens after one's death. You just simply stop your existence and cannot experience anything since your senses are disabled as well as any kind of procedural thinking with your brain. What really matters is your life at this very moment and the existence in this world can be represented by Heaven as well as complete Hell. The life itself could be your cloud nine or worst nightmare. One is in a full control of his destiny. Sounds completely logical for me. And ironically, that pretty much sums up what all that psychologists are seeking to convey in all those motivational videos. I am not telling anything about other aspects of this particular religion, I am just sharing my impression about this concept of life itself being Hell or Heaven. Faber est suae quisque fortunae.
I already have my goals, but I still need more planning and I have to put more efforts than now. And if it is hard now, I am frightened about how harder it will become than. At some point you realize that you is your most dangerous enemy. Each day is the fight between internal hell and heaven, isn't it?
Yes, I do agree with his point of view. Especially I like this one "you have to be a good loser". I understood it quite recently and this is definitely one of the best quotes from this video. Pushing yourself to the edge/limit is so extremely useful. I only regret I haven’t realized it before. Always trying something new and growing your experience along with the potential is incredible. It brings new colors, emotions and moments in your life. We won’t get so much from the things we are already good at. Maybe we will get better(but mostly stay on the same level) but the difference between what we would achieve in new sphere that we haven’t tried is huge.
As for me "be the best version of yourself" sounds good enough, doesn’t it? I don’t have a concrete goal right now but I constantly trying to get to know something new. I believe that right now I am on the stage of gathering the knowledge that’s why I can’t answer your question(right now!).
Yes, it’s interesting point of view. I like his thought about choosing the level of life and good losing. I had situation when I was the best pupil in school, but because of it I can’t move forward, learn something new. That’s why I change school and it helps me become better and grow up.
Yes. My goal is became good programmer,thoroughly learn Java.
I suggest to check his lectures. He has same points which he uses to help people to understand how to live better.
As you said, it is important to stop and recap every step that has led to this point.
Wish you luck in your plans.
I am not a religion person so this usually does not bother me.
However, from what you have written I have only one question:
If person is an atheist and does not believes that there is no afterlife, does it make him a satanist?
I strongly agree with his viewpoint, in his talk he mentions key aspects of living a conscious life. First keyword is “responsibility” that means that we and only we are responsible for how our life will look life. We have to think about our expectations, goals, people who are important to us and once we know what do we want to achieve we can start planning our activities accordingly. Another message from Dr, Peterson which I find very valuable is the simple truth known as “no pain, no gain”, that means we have to push ourselves to the limit and be on the edge of our skills and abilities, because it is the only way we can develop our skills and learn new things.
I am constantly setting new goals in my life as I think it is the perfect way to achieve more and more in my life. My goals are rather small and realistic so I can prepare exact plan and timeline for achieving them.
It's indeed powerful what he says. I would like to say thanks to the author of this post for reviling Dr. Jordan B. for me and everyone else.
I'm absolutely agree with his view of life. Things like aim, persistence and planing your life will definitely take you where you what to be.
I'd been thinking that the aim of my life is simply to be happy, to achieve a success. But recently I started to think. What is success ? What is to be happy. Happiness is just a moment in your life. And success, as many people in the world as many opinions what is success. Of course I have some goals which I'm trying to reach. But I guess I need to use some of the advices given by Dr. Jordan B. Peterson to be sure what exactly I want.
On some point of life, we will take responsibility for everything we have done.
In other words, was our time just wasted or efficiently wasted.
Right now, we need to find out how to loose as efficient as possible.
I will wait until you reach your final form.
The way he uses language and general knowledge about his topic makes him a great speaker.
About last sentence: By reference do you mean his last book?
2. I agree with his point of view shown in this video.
3. Three years ago I've decided that I will finish these studies and I am very close to reaching this goal. After that I will have to reevaluate everything and think what I want to do next. I have some vague ideas, but nothing yet written on paper. First and foremost I want to be happy. This is the only thing that I am sure of right now and that will never change.
No, I haven't heard about this person.
2. Do you agree with his point of view?
Yes, It is interesting point of view and I fully gree with him.
3. Have you already decided which goal to pursue in your life?
My goal is to be happy and becoming the best version of myself.
2. It’s hard to tell about agreeing with his point. These are very complex topics that can be extended to whole lectures, squeezed into 4min video. But I really liked the one example about life is not being a game but series of it. From that short movie I can only deduce that he is very intelligent person and probably very experienced in his field. While I don’t like that kind of pretentious videos, I see the point of it and I believe they can help a lot of people in hard times or in everyday life.
3. Yeah. It is to try dudeism from The Big Lebowski
I think that I've seen a miniature of his video on Youtube, but that's all.
2. Do you agree with his point of view?
Mostly yes - living a life without any "purpose" and responsibilities might be a waste of time - Your time.
3. Have you already decided which goal to pursue in your life?
Not yet - maybe I have a short term goal for a next 10 years, but I don't have any plans for later :)
I do agree with his point of view. You need responsibilites to grow and the responsibilities have to be at the right difficulty level.
I'm still looking for my goal. Right now I'm just following my life's flow and it works but I feel that it's time to decide, to find a goal for the next 5 years.
Can't really choose a side on this one as it's a pretty complicated matter. I, however, really liked the analogy with series of games. I agree you have to learn which competitions to choose and learn to fail as it happens when you develop.
Making strict plans for years ahead is not what I usually do. I can see an outline of my plan but from my own experience things change so often and so fast I know this image wouldn't be reliable.
I haven’t read his book and I haven’t seen his motivational videos. But after this one I’ll surely take a look. Regarding this video, I agree with his point. I think clear vision of your own nearest future can be very helpful. I think that lack of motivation in a lot of people is caused by absence of a goal. Of course, we cannot predict the future and plan our whole life. But at least we can define what we want to achieve in 2-3 years. In that case you will finally gain some motivation.
Well, he's point of view is interesting.
Enjoying every minute, trying to do what makes me happy. Have people around me who makes me feel better, who pushes me to better version of myself. Making changes every day and growing as person.
When it is easy to win, it means that you do not progress in your skills.
That why I am glad that you have this opportunity. Wish you luck.
His words have special meaning in my soul.
So I suggest to listen to his lectures.
I am happy that you have already known him before.
Wish that your thoughts be the same to think about for later years.
Reason that motivation videos are so popular is because people search for a way to become happier in their life.
Having this kind of person to listen is a present.
To have this person in our time is golden opportunity to learn about the life.
Peterson is one of the remain people that cares about freedom of words that were spoken.
Every choice that we have made has already been decided for us. (not 100%)
That is why person that can summarize for us to become better version of ourselves is he.
It is a way to become greater person. When you listen what great people have to say about their lives.
His speeches have ability to change/navigate your life.
I have never heard of Dr. Jordan B. Peterson.
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2. Do you agree with his point of view?
In general, I agree with him.
I think the main point " Believe in yourself and in your life ".
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3. Have you already decided which goal to pursue in your life?
Actually not yet but in general, I'll try to do it.
If you create a plan, there is possibility to learn new side of your life.
I had those kind of people in my life. Appreciate this kind of people. They will make your life greater.
However, the way he is thinking is the way to live our life.
They will help to understand how to manage your future. :)
When it comes to choosing the general meaning of my existence, I tend to sail wherever the wind blows rather than fixating on a singular path to follow, however while sailing through this ocean of opportunities, I try to keep an open eye and plenty of flexibility to adapt to yet unknown currents.