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Week 8 [21.05-27.05.2018] Why you don’t like the sound of your own voice




I really don’t like to listen to myself on recordings. I've always wondered why my voice on recordings is different from what I hear on a daily basis. Rebecca Kleinberger in her presentation explains  why there is discord between the sound we hear and which others hear. She also mentions how technology is trying to analyze voice to eg. predict disease like Parkinson or depression.




Questions:
1.      Do you like your own voice?
2.      Do you pay attention to other people’s voice? Do you judge them on this basis?

Comments

Unknown said…
1. It’s not that I don’t like it. It’s just that it sounds strange to me. In the video she only explained why our voice recorded sounds unfamiliar to us. Not why someone wouldn’t like it themselves.
2. I don’t judge people based on their voice. Who does? Although I avoid people with annoying voice and make impressions base on their vocabulary or accents. Also, I read social ques people voice make although that’s not a conscious intent on my part. It’s just normal part of interactions.
Lukasz Mroczek said…
I can't simply say that I don't like it but of course it sounds strange to me... It's simply because we rarely have opportunity to hear our own voice.
Of course I don't judge people by voice but for me someones voice often is a part of first impression. We shouldn't judge people that way because no one chooses voice and we are simply born with it :)
Unknown said…
I never had a problem with my own voice, of course it is different on the recording than when we say something.
I've always wondered why ;p
I honestly never judge people by their voice, but sometimes it's funny when a packed guy speaks with a squeaky voice.
Jakub Nietupski said…
No, I hate the sound of my voice. It sounds extremely weird to me.
I don't notice all parameters of other people's voices, but I definitely get affected by the tone, timbre etc.
Unknown said…
Yes, I agree that sometimes people's voice doesn't fit them and it causes funny situations. Often because of this you are not able to take that people seriously.
Thank you for your opinion :)
Unknown said…
Honestly, I don't care about the sound of my voice, because with age our voice constantly changes and it might not be the same after ten years from now. If you don't like the sound of your own voice simply get over it, this not the most important thing in life to regret. There are so many people you can find on the internet who were born with very high pitched voices but they are not insecure about that instead they see this as their own advantage and feel very comfortable and unique.
I don't pay attention to other people's voices and I don't think that voice should be the focus of people's judgment.
When I was a child, I used to wonder whether it was my voice on the recording or not. It always sounded strange and weird to me. I couldn't believe that someone could have such an ugly voice.I can't say neither I like it nor I don't like it.There are some special trainings in order to improve your voice but it's not essential for me at all. I just accepted my voice.

It's weird for me to judge people based on their voice because it means literally nothing. Yes, It may be a part of first impression but most likely I will ignore this fact. Sometimes I may try to avoid speaking with someone whose voice sounds nipping or annoying but it really happens quite rare. 
Unknown said…
Every time I'm very surprised with the sound of my voice. It's sounds completely different from mine. Always when I watch or hear some video and hear my voice I think that it sounds very bad. I don't pay attention so much to the voice of other people unless it's original of funny. I never judge people because of voice.
Foodocado said…
I remember the first time I heard my own voice and I was terrified. I think the reason for that is we don't usually hear our voice and each time it's something new to us.

I don't care about anyone's voice only if it is not being squeaky.
I don't like my voice, but it is one that i have, so there is no need for fuss. I think that judging people on their voice alone is silly, but to be honest i would avoid person with super annoing voice =3
Jakub Lisicki said…
I don't like my voice, I think it sounds terrible on the recordings. Nowadays I'm pretty fine with that, but it was a shock for me when I've first listened to it on a recording as a child. How could my voice sound so differently and so bad compared to what I hear? It's not a big deal, though. No one really cares about such things, unless we want to become an actor, lector or anyone else who uses their voice as a source of income.
I don't judge other people by their voice. I just tend to remember the most specific voices, which aren't comparable to any other that we hear.
Anna Koca said…
1. Do you like your own voice?
I actually like my own voice. I like to sing a lot and I guess that if I didn't like my voice, I wouldn't be able to stand it. People also say that I have a nice and warm voice, so I think it's OK.

2. Do you pay attention to other people’s voice? Do you judge them on this basis?
Subconsciously yes, I guess. It is a part of one's appearances and we have to admit we do judge others by means of the first impression. However someone would have to have a really annoying voice for me to change my attitude towards them only on the basis of that.
Marcin Górski said…
I don't have problem with my voice, it doesn't bother me. It's very strange when I can hear my recorded voice because it's different than I speak everyday.
I don't pay attention on other person voice but I don't like when people are talking too loud.
I don't like my voice and i know that every person doesn't like his voice on the recordings. I read a lot information about this but i still can't find the answer what is the problem. I never judge people by the voice and i think it is stupid. We can't change our voice and we can't choose it. When the voice is annoying you can't pay attention to it. We are always paying attention when somebody is singing. But you still can't judge them.
Illia Kalinin said…
It's hard for me to say is it good or bad, but it's always an awkward feeling hearing yourself on a record and compare it with the voice in your head. I don't usually pay, but sometimes it may be as unique so you passively will start to judge and build your relation depending on that.
So yes i do like my voice, its not perfect i wish it was more low-pitched but it could be worse than it is now.
So yes and no. There are a couple things that we have to take into consideration.
If i already liek the person - i think he/she is smart or has valuable assets that bring something to the conversation i dont really care about the voice.
On the other hand you can have the voice of Morgan Freeman and if dont like you, or you are straight up dumb i will compliment your voice but still avoid you as best as i can.

In our era voice matters especially if our first interaction comes by phone then i think having a nice voice can be an advantage, sort of first impression even before you meet someone.
Unknown said…
1. When I was a child I didn't like my own voice and when I was hearing it on some recordings I was thinking that my voice was weird. Now I like my voice and I know that we shouldn't care about such stuff. It is important to speak clearly and then people will listen to you.

2. I pay attention to others people's voice but I not judge them on this basis. I have a ear for music so sounds are important for me but I don't think that we can judge people because of timbre of their voice.
Unknown said…
I mean… It’s just normal for me. I don’t have problem with sound of my voice. I just live with it. Of course it sounds a little bit different on the recordings and hearing it is strange, but I’m cool with that.

Yes, I pay attention to other people’s voice, but I’m absolutely not judging them on this basis. If someone does, then he/she is very derisory…
You know, it’s no one choice, we just born with it. We have to respect that.
Illia Lukisha said…
1. Do you like your own voice?
Not really, but I just used to it.

2. Do you pay attention to other people’s voice? Do you judge them on this basis?
No I don't judge people for their voice, but I can predict if something went wrong with my girlfriend, even if she says, that everything is alright. Because I know intonations of her voice, and can differantiate them.
Vladlen Kyselov said…
I don`t like my recorded voice and I think a lot of people feel the same. I am not paying attention to other people until certain moment, when like man starts speaking to me like a 6 year old girl. That makes me think one more why he has such a weird voice, but still it is not worth judging him.
Unknown said…
Like many people I don't like the recorded sound of my voice, because it is something unfamiliar. I used to read some articles on that topic, but I still can't explain to myself why is it so unpleasant, though I understand the mechanism. But you know, if I would like to make my voice sound pleasant for recording, I could do it. But maybe it won't sound natural.
Of course I would pay attention if someone has beautiful or notably unpleasant voice, but I won't if there is nothing special. Maybe laugh is more important for me, I hate the sound of someone's vexing giggling.
Unknown said…
I don’t like my voice in the recording. Not always but on some recordings, I not really sure is this my voice or not. For me, it seems very high and my impression that in real life my voice sounds very different as in the recording ant it’s confusing.
I’m trying not to judge people based on their voice however in some cases it can be hard to not paying attention to the voice if it annoying you.
Unknown said…
I won't say I don't like it, but I'm not used to hearing it. That's why when I have a presentation I feel strange at the beginning. After seeing the video, I know that it's because it sounds different than in reality because of all the way it has to move in cables and it's processed by various sound settings, but still it feels weird :D

I have a good story about this. I was in the invisible exhibition in Warsaw when sightless people show you how they live. Your tour is made in complete darkness, and you see your guide only in the end. That's why I had to imagine the person just hearing his voice. My reaction on the tour end when I had a chance to compare my imagination to the real person was like I was totally wrong. I imagined fat, short women but it turned out that she was taller than me and quite fit. This experience showed me it makes no sense to judge other people on their voice.
Unknown said…
1. Do you like your own voice?
Not really, but I think it is because I don't listen to it very often and I simply hear it differently in my head. It is also hard to hear you voice clearly, as your friends hear you for instance, because technology has a big impact on how your voice is processed and the final result may be different from how you actually speak.

2. Do you pay attention to other people’s voice? Do you judge them on this basis?
I do pay attention to other people's voice. Moreover, I think it is only a little less crucial than someone's appearance when you meet one for the first time. I don't judge someone on purpose, but I think every human judge another on the appearance and voice basis subconsciously.
Andrzej Gulak said…
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Unknown said…
We hear our voices from inner connections and vibrations, that is our “main” voice, what we hear from childhood, and that is why when we hear our “outer” voice we feel strange, we are not used to hear it. That is also the reason why we “don’t like” it, it is a matter of adaptation, if we will listen to it more often we will “like” it. I personally like my outer voice.
You divide your first impressions on other people in two parts, first is looks and second is voice, and I think it is not possible to not pay attention on their voices. It is weird to judge people by their voices, maybe you can make fun of some, but not judge.
Yes, I always hate the sound of my voice on records and I think it is strange. I didn't like that I have special voice extras that make my voice strange but people told to me that it's ok and they never care about this (the same as I about their voice) so I think this is interesting case.

I didn't pay attention to other people’s voice.
Unknown said…
1. Do you like your own voice?
Yes, I love my voice.
2. Do you pay attention to other people’s voice? Do you judge them on this basis?
I don't care about other's people voices, I know that many people judge others basing on their apperance and I can understand it in some way but judging people because of their voice is absolutely irrational for me.
Unknown said…
As far as I can see you are the only one who like his own voice. Lucky you! :)
In primary school, we had a class presentation and I had to record myself reading a speech about the environment. In the assembly my friends bit came first. When I started speaking in the video, my teacher had to drastically lower the volume of my voice so as not to damage the hearing of the audience due to the sheer pitch of young me's voice. Since that day i have never let anyone else record my voice.
Unknown said…
Yes I understand what you feel. I also hate when someone is talking loudly and going through ever message as if it was the birth of child.
Unknown said…
I remember my first time in my childhood when I heard my voice on recording. I remember it was awful. Nowadays, it doesn't bother me. I think I don't really pay attention to other people's voice. I notice if someone have nice voice, but I don't judge person based on his/her voice.
Unknown said…
2.
Yes, that was what I mean asking this question. I know that juding people based on their voice is as inaccurate as judging based on apperiance or financial status, but as I can see everyone avoids people with annoying voice.
Unknown said…
I also like to sing, but I'm aware I'm doing it wrong and it has to annoy other people :)
Unknown said…
Oh I've never heard about voice training. Have to check it out!
Thanks for your comment :)
I don't really know. Sometimes i want it to be stronger and lower but many people are telling me that it is already pretty low so im kinda confused.
Ah, maybe judging is bad word. I think voise is helping us to understand, clarify and imagine with what kind of person we are talking with. Also it help us to identify many other things like, humor or if someone is in hurry etc.
Patryk Górski said…
No. It's very awkward for me when I hear my voice. I do not like it, and I don't want to hear it.

Sometimes I do, but it's only when someone has a very characteristic voice. I'm not making fun of it, but sometimes it's weird, when someone has some kind of "special" voice. I do not judge people by their voice
Unknown said…
I dont like my own voice so much! Cant listen to it, it distracts me and makes me feel... fooled, probably. Simply because i wanted other voice, and i usually hear other voice)
I dont judge them on this basis, but sometimes i pay attention to it
Unknown said…

I don't like listen my voice when i hear it on records. But when i'm singing i think is okay.
I pay attention to others voice but i never judged them because of their voice. How we can do this when they don't have no responsibility of that. I think that it will be unfair.
Unknown said…
I would say that voice were more important about 10 years ago. Nowadays we communicate more often by text, so sometimes you can be surprised by the voice of person you were chatting for some time.
Cecylia said…
Normally I’m quite a shy person, and even though I often speak publicly or perform in front of audiences I usually get very stressed and experience stage fright before each and every performance. When I am on stage, I hate hearing my own voice – it’s a strange experience for me, because each and every time I can hear it, I feel like I sound very bad and unpleasant for other people. Moreover, people are often judged by how they sound – if you pay attention to other person’s voice you can learn many things about them, for instance, how you sound to other people can reveal to them if you’re nervous, angry or sad, and it’s a useful method of getting to know someone – I make use of it quite often.

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