How often you were talking for some time only to find out nobody was actually listening to you? Some people have something in them that focuses attention of people around him and some have problem to get a word in edgeways. Julian Treasure in his presentation tells what you should and should not do while speaking in order to be listened.
- Do you have problems in being listened by others often?
- Which sin you most often commit and which you hate the most?
- Have you tried similar tips before? Have they worked?
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I guess I've done all of them already but it's quite reassuring I could point out some of the sins myself.
It's hard to change a habit but it's worth trying to kill the worst ones. I do speak to people differently than I was few years before.
I feel that too often I fell into the trap of speaking negatively on a given subject instead of trying to provide useful critique.
I haven't try to involve any techniques when I'm speaking because I always am too focused on what I'm saying that I couldn't think about using some additional tricks.
I think it's better if someone before say something think about it well, the words are much more concise but more appealing. Of course, you should always consider the age, the literacy and the perception of the listener either in speaking .
It is hard for me to answer this question because I usually evaluate myself from my own point of view. I think that people who I talk to most will be able to point out mistakes I make in conversations.
No, I did not. But I think those tips might come in handy in some common situations.
2. The most common sin I commit is usually thinking more about the content and less about a way to express it. This is also the thing I hate the most, but I’m working on improving that!
3. Yes I’ve tried and they are always worth it. I have participated in couple of public speaking trainings which I fully recommend.
Most probably I commit every single sin because I have never payed attention to it. How can I hate any if I commit every single one? :) Actually this video made me realize that it's not so hard to sound more seriously and these tips actually work. It should just become a habit and people will pay more attention to you.
No, I have never even heard about it before. To my humble opinion, every single tip should work.
2. Yes, I give time to the body language. I listen to what my subconscious tells me. For example, I may be unsure of something, or I do not like my interlocutor. If something does not suit me in my movements, I find the reason and change the attitude.
3. Yes, of course, already tried.
The thing mentioned in the video that irritates me the most is probably gossip. I hate it when people don't have enough courage to tell the others what do they think and instead spread the rumors. The sin that I commit the most.... I'm not really comfortable with saying that out loud - or writing, in this case.
I have tried some of the things that are said to improve how we are perceived by the others. I think that the most crucial thing is to be ourselves. Let's just not be one of these fake people which are completely different on the surface and on the inside.
I don't pay too much attention to notice what are my sins. I agree with a statement above about gossip. I hate when somebody is trying to show that he/she is smarter than other person. Especially when we are talking about lie.
I've never tried similar tips before, i would try it in closest future by all means and i hope they will work.
I think sometimes, but usually not. But also I noticed that is annoying when you are not listening when you talk.
Which sin you most often commit and which you hate the most?
I think I sometimes speak to quiet, I do not like shout my mouth, for me that is not very cultural. I think that is my biggest sin I often commit. It is hard to tell what else but I try to analyse myself when I will be in situation described in presentation.
Have you tried similar tips before? Have they worked?
No I do not. But I think that may work, and I will try those tips.
1. Mostly I don't have problems in beeing listened by others but sometimes it happens but then I say that I can stop talk if it is not interesting for person who ignores me.
2. This video shows me that I should work on myself and try to avoid judging people and complaining. I want to share good emotions with other people and I am concious that my complaining can't fix any my problems and it only can get somebody bad mood.
3. I can't say that his tips are new for me but his speech made me think about importance of speaking quality. It is important to pay attention to how we share our opinions with other people. I agree with him that our voice is something which change the world if we use it right.
Im a sinner, oh lord. Im quite know for always complaining or seeing the worst of the worst in every situation. What i hate the most is when someone gossips extensively, yes we all have slip of gossip here and there but when its a main point of conversation i just turn off or walk away.
Another one really apparent when talking to some old people is dogmatism. They usually dont want your opinion they just want to throw their "way of thinking" at you without listening back.
I don't think so. You know, it can happens, but I think I'm a good speaker and I can encourage somebody to listen.
Which sins do I most often commit?
Maybe dogmatism? Sometimes I'm a little bit credulous.
Which sin do I hate the most?
Lying, of course. I just can't stand when you know the truth and still someone is lying to you. It's just unacceptable.
No, I haven't tried it, but it seems interesting.
Do I have problems in being listened by others often?
Basically, I'm a quite silent person, so when I suddenly speak it usually takes attention. It may become a problem in a crowded place, but usually it is not.
Which sins do I most often commit?
Mostly it is gluttony, I hope I'm still growing.
Which sin do I hate the most?
Surely lying, everyone have a story about harmful lie, right? - but not everyone have about lust, for example.
Not often, by sometimes.
Which sin you most often commit and which you hate the most?
I think the worst is gossip, because to discuss behind one's back is terrible. I can commit lying sometimes, like in example given in video.
Have you tried similar tips before? Have they worked?
I'm trying constantly, but there is no limit to perfection.
I think I judge too much but I'm working on it.
I haven't tried any of those tips.
To talk about stated “sins” I think there is just two of them and other five are what we mostly do every day and even if we do it, everybody listens. Those two “sins” are lying and dogmatism, which are mostly correlated to each other, if you say something without proof it is as you are lying. But other five, we are humans, so we judge, we need to judge, especially if we are judging the person with whom we are talking if it is stated with proofs it’s better for them. The same comes to other statements also.
No, I have never tried using those tips, in matter of fact, if you state your opinion correctly and with understandable language you don’t need to worry about this problem, they will listen.
I think that people that can't make other to listen them very shameful and they need to learn how to be more active and open to exclude such type of situations.
No, I am not familiar with this feeling. I am rather strong in my character and voice, I also speak when I have something particular to say, at least I hope so. Sometimes, I find myself speaking not very clearly, but that is not the case in this point.
2. Which sin you most often commit and which you hate the most?
The sin I hate the most is the sin I commit the most often, I think. Being egocentric and thinking about yourself as first is a very bad thing, which I try to fight with.
3. Have you tried similar tips before? Have they worked?
Not really, as I said I feel pretty confident with my speech and I don't notice that I am not listened whatsoever.
Sometimes I do gossip about someone, it's very rare but it happens. I also hate this so much, so that's why I am trying to work on it.
No, I didn't. I feel confident during speech, so it's not a problem for me
Honestly, i don't think that i do any of those. Maybe someone from my society should say something about it or maybe when i can listen myself, then i will see some of mistakes.
I finished course about how to speek to people so i think that i use special tricks and it works good.
I would prefer to not answer this question)
Nope, i havent. But i guess i will try to, maybe they will work)