Stress changes how
people made decisions, we’re just forgetting how to act – our choices and words
are not congruent with our normal behaviour. Do you remember your last stressful
situation? I bet, if you could go back in time, you would do things differently
– simply because now you thinking clearly.
I’m not saying that stress is a bad thing, and all this situations are useless
and depressing – In my opinion that kind of experience builds your character
and prepare you for next challenges.
You have to remember that you can’t fix what you can’t control. My frame is simple – “stop trying to make things happen and instead, start allowing them to happen” – just let go all negative thinking, and start living in the moment. Embrace the stress and calm down – now you can’t change all the factors that led you to this situation – but what if you could predict them?
You have to remember that you can’t fix what you can’t control. My frame is simple – “stop trying to make things happen and instead, start allowing them to happen” – just let go all negative thinking, and start living in the moment. Embrace the stress and calm down – now you can’t change all the factors that led you to this situation – but what if you could predict them?
Questions:
1) Are you
afraid of stressful situations or you treat them like a challenge?
2) Do you think that planning ahead could change the way you react under pressure?
3) What do you think about decisions taken in stressful situations? Do you regret them and think about things that you could do better or embrace them and draw conclusions?
Comments
Of course, because when you plan stuff you take everything under your control. And when you do it you feel more confident about your actions.
In my opinion, we will always regret some of our decisions made in stressful situations because we would feel that we could somehow foresee the cause of problems at first place. But I agree that we also need to make conclusions about our bad decisions and try to take wiser actions next time.
I'm sure that planning ahead reduces amount of stressful situations in our life. I have more important things to stress about than deadlines at school for example and that's why I like to plan everything ahead to save my nerves.
Decisions we've taken in stressful situations are the ones that we will always wonder about but not always we have to regret them.
Of course, learning from mistakes or experience is important, at least for me. I can learn from it what is worth doing and what is not worth doing. I try not to regret my decisions, because they are a thing of the past and I will not do anything about them anymore.
Future planning reduces your stress. Because you try to reduce the risk of mistakes with future planning and make better use of your time.
In my opinion, always the first decision is the most mistaken decision, because the decision to be taken in a haste has a high risk of error and risk.
1) Are you afraid of stressful situations or you treat them like a challenge?
Both. It is never pleasant to have something stressful ahead of you, because if something makes you nervous, it means that probably the outcomes of it are important to your life - e.g. exams, job interview, surgery. But, following this logic, life without stressful situations would mean life with no important moments.
2) Do you think that planning ahead could change the way you react under pressure?
I am not a big planner, but certainly experience is what make you calmer in stressful situations. I guess you can try to plan your way best you can, and still reality can surprise you. However experience is not that easy to fool.
3) What do you think about decisions taken in stressful situations? Do you regret them and think about things that you could do better or embrace them and draw conclusions?
When I think about stressful situations, I do not associate it immediately with making decisions. For me it's rather about testing you abilities - like during exams or job interviews.
Definitely, I believe that it is the most efficient thing we could do. It’s our plan B. In most of the stressful situations we spend a lot of time to get ourselves together and start doing something. In this case we could just follow the scenario we have written before and it saves us a lot of time.
Mostly I don’t regret decisions made in stressful situations as long as it doesn’t somehow influence my relatives or friends. I regret being angry while I am under the stress. I just need a time to calm down and if someone tries talking to me it ends bad in most cases.
2. It seems like planning ahead is important but at the same time people are more forgetful under the stress. In the end it gets down to getting used to stressful situation and to a person. Some people can handle stress better than others.
3. I try no to think about neither good or bad decisions I made. Afterwards I indeed drew conclusions but at the same time I try not to overthink it.
I'm more afraid of making wrong or bad decision than the situation by itself. And all stressful situations are challenges for all of us.
2) Do you think that planning ahead could change the way you react under pressure?
Yes, I've got several stressful situations, when I remembered about my own thoughts. Never thought that this is this "pre-mortem" thinking though. But now I will do it more often, because I know now, what helps me in that kind of situations.
3) What do you think about decisions taken in stressful situations? Do you regret them and think about things that you could do better or embrace them and draw conclusions?
This all depends on the situation, sometimes I regret, sometimes I draw conclusions. Some stressful situations don't happen often or even they happens once in a lifetime, and bad decision is haunting me for long time... And some situations are regular and conclusions drawing is a must.
I am trying to plan ways of resolving some stressful situations ahead and I think it makes me make better decisions (or just accept my fate.) I don't think that only applies to this kind of situations, though. It applies to all kind of situations, planning ahead usually makes us make decisions which are not made in a rush.
I think that I sometimes I could have made much better decisions, if only I had a little more time to think about the situations. I always try to make myself better at any kind of situations, but it's not easy. We are just humans, we make mistakes. The most important thing is to learn from them, it's the only thing that matters.
Plan ahead is definitely a great way to coup with a lot of potentially stressful situations. Not to mention great comfort it brings.
Regretting something is rejecting of who you are or was. Its not the best way to live if you ask me. So if I made a decisions and have a results that do not satisfy me Im trying to draw a conclusion on how should I change my behavior to get the results I want.
No I am not afraid of stressful situations. I rather feel the rush and challenged to do my best. This comes in handy while speaking in public or conducting presentations in front of managing director. Yes planning ahead does change the pressure, being prepared for conversation or a talk is always the reason why I’m not really stressed. However at the same time it is not beneficial to think too much about the upcoming situation, you can easily enter the danger zone of overthinking the failure. I never really did bad with my past decisions taken in stressful situations, there is nothing I regret but at the same time I always draw conclusions to know better what to expect of myself in different situations.
Yes, of course I think that planning ahead could change the way you react under pressure because you can be prepared for that. I think that time organization it's something which can prevents these situations because you can think about everything. It's like in a school. If you have some projects and you do it at the last minute it's very stressful because you can't make a wrong decision, there is no room for mistakes.
I always try to prevent them but if it not possible it's normal for me to draw conclusion. People are learning everyday and it's very important to learn from mistakes.
Planning ahead helps for sure. It's one of the best ways for me to overcome stress.
I am one of those people who doesn't regret anything. I believe everything in life has a purpose. It's good to teach from our mistakes.
Planning ahead can definitely affect the way you act in a given situation. Problem is that stressful situations are often unexpected. You often get stressed exactly because something doesn't happen according to your plan.
I try to own up to my decisions but if I realize I made a mistake I don't hesitate to fall back.
I do not planing far off, but perhaps there is a stressful situation that can spoil everything.
We all have a moment, when you can not sleep at all while sleeping and all the night you remember something from the old memories, and I'm sure you're saying "I'd have to say something like this or else I would have been different." It can be said that this is an exercise in the brain :D :D
2. Yes, my mother asked: why do I think about the bad, because you always need to think positively. But I realized that I was doing this so that in case of a bad result or a stressful condition, my brain already had a solution to the problem, or at least a clue.
3. I never regretted how I acted and what could have done better. In that situation, I did what I thought best. If I think that I have not done enough for the solution, I will certainly think about this situation to be more confident in my actions next time.
I try to treat them like a challenge for past few years and it really works out for me. The higher stake there is, the harder it is to not get scared. If you ever find yourself in the situation, this is a perfect moment to challenge yourself, because the harder situation is, the more you can learn from it.
2) Do you think that planning ahead could change the way you react under pressure?
Sure thing, it is in fact very common recommendation to plan ahead your steps. It supposedly makes you less vulnerable to stress, as you were imagining yourself in similar situation before.
3) What do you think about decisions taken in stressful situations? Do you regret them and think about things that you could do better or embrace them and draw conclusions?
It obviously depends on the final result of taken decision. Sometimes decisions made under stress are very beneficial as we are deeply focused on our goal in the moment. In case of these bad decisions, I try to learn on my mistakes and don't repeat them in the future.
I already plan ahead, what minimizes the stressful parts is knowing my craft/ my role. There is no need to stress if u know your part, just do your best u would not be there if u were wrong person for the job always remember that.
I learn from potential mistakes, if such bad/ regretful decision happens ill control my emotions better next time.
I'm not afraid of stressful situations, i would say that i'm more motivated when stressful situations happen. I'm always trying to stay calm in every situation and to find the right solution. And yes, i like to challenge this kind of situations.
2) Do you think that planning ahead could change the way you react under pressure?
Maybe yes, maybe not. We can not predict what can happen. But we can be ready for it. And what about reacting under the pressure - it depends on a personality.
3) What do you think about decisions taken in stressful situations? Do you regret them and think about things that you could do better or embrace them and draw conclusions?
As i mentioned,decisions can be good and bad. But you don't need to regret about them. We are learning something from our mistakes, so any decision would be useful.
Indeed it may help, because if you plan you can imagine some situations that may appear, and when on those will appear you will be ready.
Mostly I regret about these decisions , it is always better to think twice.
Ordinary, I try to escape such type of situations. And even if the speaking could be in the near future complicate i try to avoid some sentences and word which can lead some stress situation.
Try not to avoid stresfull situations, I know it could be hard, but look at this way - First, judge how important this situations is, then, if it isn't, treat it like a lesson and try to change Your behaviour during it - it could be helpful in next similiar situation ;)
It's OK to be afraid. Planning ahead is indeed helpful to stay calm. Your right about not regreting things we said or done ;)
I like Your point of view Mateusz! It's healthy. Keep it goin'!
2. I don't think so. Sometimes you can think about it for a months, and then you realize that it gave you nothing - you are standing there still stressing out.
3. Those decisions sometimes could be dangerous and have an impact on your future. Be careful when you are stressed and trying to decide about something. It can go completely wrong
I can admit that I am afraid of stressful situations but I always trying to deal with such emotions and then such potentially stressfully situations are a challenge for me.
2) Do you think that planning ahead could change the way you react under pressure?
I thik that it is 100% true because when we are prepared for any potential scenarious in our life then we can feel calm because we are aware that we are ready to deal with problems which we thought before.
3) What do you think about decisions taken in stressful situations? Do you regret them and think about things that you could do better or embrace them and draw conclusions?
It depends because sometimes when I made a decision in stressful situations after some time I realised that I should have made a different decision. I prefer to have a time to think before making any serious decisions in my life.
1. Good point of view, I didn't see it like that before, thank You ;)
2. Yep, thats truth - thats why it's good to have a lot of experience ;)
3. Nice way!
2. In my opinion it's all abou the practise - experience helps a lot!
3. Healthy way of thinking I would say
2. I hope that this articles will help You in that ;)
3. Remember, You're only a fool when You make same bad decision again, besides that, evry decision is worth to learn from.
Thanks for sharing ;)
2. Good attitude Bro!
3. Yes, there is something about it ;)
2. Yes, learning from Your own experience is the best way to achive Your goals
3. good attitude bro, keep it goin'
Thanks for sharing!
2. Good to hear!
3. Repeting the same mistake all over again is nonsens - when You do that You bacame foolish - good that You're aware of that!
2. But if You predict some scenarios and prepere for them, then it should be easier for You to handle them ;)
3. Yes, and that's brutal :(
2. True!
3. Thats what planning and preparing is all about
Thanks for Your comment!
Of course it will change. If you have planned everything, then this situation wont be that stressful, because obscurity causes stress.
I try to avoid making such decisions. I always try to wait for one more day or just few hours to become calm, maybe as for an advice, and then make the decision that i wont regret.
You know, it depends. Usually I treat them like a challenge, but sometimes there are situations, which make me afraid of them.
For sure! I’m always trying to do that. When I know, that I’m going to face some situation, which can be stressful I'm always trying to think what could be the consequences etc.
Again, it depends. I rarely regret anything, but when I do I think about things, that I could do better.