Being a human means having a choice. We're constantly deciding upon one thing or another each day, without really wondering about the consequences, especially if those are rather routine choices we're used to making every day. Sometimes things are completely random and impossible to foresee, such as meeting a person you fall in love with going to a local shop to buy milk, but most of the time we can foresee at least short-term consequences of choosing one option over another one.
Very often we prefer to choose something we're familiar with, rather than something we can't easily foresee in terms of consequences. When you'd be given a choice between continuing education in the school you already know, or changing it, chances are that either you'd stick with your current school because it's good, or even if it's bad you'd rather be pessimistic and think that it can always be worse and go with it anyway since you're already familiar with it, therefore you can keep it up. People are afraid of changes and are often closing themselves in fixed imaginary decision borders rather than expanding onto new, unknown, potentially rewarding options that could benefit them in the long run.
This is also what affected me recently - I've always wanted to create my own video game, yet I was afraid that I'm simply too stupid, inexperienced and that I would simply fail doing so. This is a common thing that goes in our minds when talking about any assignment we're not familiar with - be it at work, home, or social life. But without carefully analysing the consequences of the available choices, you'll often stick with the first, very often quite a conservative choice, even if other ones are only slightly risky, yet potentially very rewarding. An example of that would be the prisoner's dilemma.
In the end it's important to always try new ways of doing something, especially if it's not connected with a huge loss in case of failure. Getting familiar with new approaches, ways of solving issues, particular cases or issues, makes us less scared of trying that thing in the future, at the same time expanding our abilities in terms of decision-making, potentially yielding even better available decisions in the future. This is why I decided to take my chances and try to go with my initial idea of game making, even if I'm completely unaware of the problems that will arrive because of that choice in the following year :).
2. Are you patient and careful person that always tries to analyse the outcome of a given decision, or you'd rather stick to your first thought?
3. Do you often take a risk if it's worth it, or rather make safe decisions?
Thank you for reading.
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Very often we prefer to choose something we're familiar with, rather than something we can't easily foresee in terms of consequences. When you'd be given a choice between continuing education in the school you already know, or changing it, chances are that either you'd stick with your current school because it's good, or even if it's bad you'd rather be pessimistic and think that it can always be worse and go with it anyway since you're already familiar with it, therefore you can keep it up. People are afraid of changes and are often closing themselves in fixed imaginary decision borders rather than expanding onto new, unknown, potentially rewarding options that could benefit them in the long run.
This is also what affected me recently - I've always wanted to create my own video game, yet I was afraid that I'm simply too stupid, inexperienced and that I would simply fail doing so. This is a common thing that goes in our minds when talking about any assignment we're not familiar with - be it at work, home, or social life. But without carefully analysing the consequences of the available choices, you'll often stick with the first, very often quite a conservative choice, even if other ones are only slightly risky, yet potentially very rewarding. An example of that would be the prisoner's dilemma.
In the end it's important to always try new ways of doing something, especially if it's not connected with a huge loss in case of failure. Getting familiar with new approaches, ways of solving issues, particular cases or issues, makes us less scared of trying that thing in the future, at the same time expanding our abilities in terms of decision-making, potentially yielding even better available decisions in the future. This is why I decided to take my chances and try to go with my initial idea of game making, even if I'm completely unaware of the problems that will arrive because of that choice in the following year :).
A few questions:
1. Have you ever made a decision that you badly regretted later? Do you think it could be avoided? Have you foreseen the consequences and decided to go with it anyway?2. Are you patient and careful person that always tries to analyse the outcome of a given decision, or you'd rather stick to your first thought?
3. Do you often take a risk if it's worth it, or rather make safe decisions?
Thank you for reading.
Comments
It really depends on the type of decision. If we are talking about falling in love or emotions generally I often rely on my first thought but If we are talking about buying things like smartphone, laptop or car I always like to do research and analyse probable outcome of my decision.
If it is worth I often take a risk but If there is a situation that I’m not sure that it is safe I have to think a little but I will also take into consideration taking risk.
Most the time I'm trying to be calm and careful when it comes to making some decisions. I love to analyze all the possible ways that can happen and make sure I'm choosing right one. It doesn't change fact that sometimes it is necessary to take risk. Situations like trying to meet someone new, getting financial profit or even trying new things to have good time requires taking risk. Making only safe decisions may make your life boring.
What eventually pushed you to give up smoking, if I may ask?
And I have made a few mistakes in my life but as I'm trying to remind some of them I have a big void in my head (probably our mind is trying to erase those memories because we want to be perceived as a good person and our mistakes makes it more difficult to think so)
Some of our mistakes could be avoided, some not. The best we can do in order to avoid making bad decisions is learning how to control our emotions. Fell angry while arguing with friend? Just politely stop the conversation, don't try to win the argument and remember that he/she is your friend. Losing control while arguing could lead to unpleasant consequences. Losing control over your emotion in EVERY SITUATION could lead to unpleasant consequences.
I have allways trying to be calm in every situation and analyse everything but sometimes I choose the YOLO-style because I'm too tired of analysing another situations.
“In any weather, at any hour of the day or night, I have been anxious to improve the nick of time, and notch it on my stick too; to stand on the meeting of two eternities, the past and future, which is precisely the present moment; to toe that line.”
~Henry David Thoreau, Walden
In most of cases I try to analyze all of aspects and effects.
When decision really worths of risking I take it but in most of situations I rather to make safe decisions.
I am always analyzing my choices, always looking for best possible way of doing something. Is it worth it etc. Then I am just thinking if I can handle worst case scenario.
I like your selection of topic, because it sounds sincere and personal. I like how it fits into your story.
I have made my share of bad decisions, but I can't say I regret them, because they taught me something and also lead to new places and opportunities :) Perhaps one thing that I regret and that was really stupid was not taking care of my health.
I'm definitely a slow thinker and I tend to take time when making a decision. It is not always beneficial, but that's how it is.
I wish I took more risks, particularly in professional life :)
Wish you the best of luck with your game!
Now the era of social networking. Where everyone shares their life experiences which shows how he became rich.
An ordinary man living in a fantasy, believe it and not thinking, just repeat all that was in the video...
Then they say that it's not their fault.
I think, before doing something, you need to think, after something to do.
I think we should look on the future and analyze everything before we choose any options.
For example, would you agree with your friend that is truly believing that the Earth is flat? Just to not lose him because trying to prove him that he's wrong could lead to losing him?
It's good to hear you're trying to avoid it. I wish you all the best! :)
I am the person that rather stick to my first thought, my first impression, but I have some habit to analyse everything some time later.
Now, I would prefer safer way than a risky one, because I have already done enough risky decisions and understood that risk and luck are not my best friends.
I can't say that I am patient or risky. My own way is just do what I must to do and don't give a care about what will be. Of course I am not going to make a bold move without thinking about it for some time and I am not going to wait to long when it comes to quick decision. I try to save the balance between patience and boldness.
I'm usually analyser type but sometimes I have a feeling to make a decision in this moment. Of course, it mostly end up badly :)
I believe taking risk is alright if it's properly analysed. Spontaneous, risky decisions are not the best way to achieve something.
I feel that when you analyze you often miss some important pieces that you don't know about yet. So I analyze naturally and I feel safe when I do it but I've been out of my comfort zone many times and even though I did it against what I assumed before I benefited from this. Sometimes it's worth to listen to someone with different approach in life. They opinion will tell you if you analyze truly or are just closed in your comfort zone and don't want to get out.
Usually I am even too careful. If I hear about something the very first thing I do is to analyse the dangers connected to it and how to prevent them. It may be annoying but usually it's useful. But I haven't had a "chance" of risking anything yet. I will probably try to make a safe decision but sometimes it's impossible. If you want to, for example, change something in your life you have to take a risk. If you don't nothing will change at all.
I am rather quiet person and I usually try not to harry with decisions, but sometimes my decisions are guided by emotions.
If it's worth I like to take the risk.
People also get attached - when a person walks down a street and finds $1000, but then loses it, they get upset. They feel like they lost a thousand. But actually they are at where they were an hour ago, nothing has changed.
The two behaviours I described above are one of the main common mistakes people make when running a business or investing on the stock market - they make bad, unreasonable decisions not thinking long-term and decising very impulsively. This is something I've learned very early on and try to base my decisions on, which turns out to work well, in every aspect.
I have personally made decisions which did not let me profit on something, socially, financially etc. I can not recall any decisions from the past years that made me lose, and that is what's most important, and this type of mistakes is regretted the most.
I regret many of the decision made but it is like in a Casino - you never know what number comes next and you cannot plan everything. It is very important for me to learn from every thing that went wrong and go on with live. That's the way it should always be. Maria Czubaszek passed away few months ago and her motto was simple - "There are two days that you should not regret and bother with, yesterday and tommorow".
2. Are you patient and careful person that always tries to analyse the outcome of a given decision, or you'd rather stick to your first thought?
Sometimes decision I made in a rush were the best despite the consequences made along them. I wouldn't met my fiancee or parachute if it was not a decision with many consequences through.
3. Do you often take a risk if it's worth it, or rather make safe decisions?
My decisions are mostly safe when then can be... but that is mostly :) In private life and work there are a lot of times where the risk level is very high.
>We all do dumb things, that's what makes us human.
I've done some bad decisions, as everyone. Do I regret them? Well some I do, some don't as I just let go. If I remember them correctly, most of the bad ones were made, when I over-analyzed, came up with some impossible scenario that would make everyone happy and decided it would be best, even if it was unreal.
Does that mean I'm always trying to analyse everything? I wouldn't say that - I'd rather say that I'm adapting to the amount of time I have to make the decision. If I don't have it at all (e.g. during conversation), I'd go with my feel, knowing that I can't undo or stop some things from happening, so lets just get over with it #YOLO.
When I know I have some time, I usually try to come up with a better solution, though sometimes I have that "What can go wrong?" feel, and after a quick evaluation of pros and cons of something, I act quickly- Those are the times we talk about "Oh, you remember when we did xxxx? It's miracle we are still alive after that.", the good memories that make great stories.
When I make a decision I usually follow my first thought. So most of my choices are natural. Sometimes when I think about something longer then anyway, at the end it turns out that the first thought was right.
You need to know when to risk and when to be careful in making choices. Much depends on how much we have to get and how much to lose. My decisions also depend on the situation.
If I see that there is a sense in risk, I choose the risk, but when I have to make safe decisions I do as I have decided. I do not think about what would have been if ...
Definitely, I'd better think a little longer and not to make any decision at once.
Of course, safer decisions. I'm not that kind of person who would prefer to risk.