Judging people is a very common thing in everyday
life. We do it very often – regardless of the situation or place: at work,
school, café, in the shop or even commuting. All the time. Sometimes we eavesdrop
and that’s why we have an opinion. Mostly we judge people by their looks, because it’s the first thing that we perceive,
get to know. There are two sides of judging
people.
Firstly, cons.
My friend once told me that she didn’t like a girl from the moment she met her.
When I asked why, she answered she didn’t know, but probably because of her looks.
Probably all of us, at least once, have done the same. We can point out a lot
of examples, for instance, a doctor with tattoos is not a reliable person.
Secondly, pros.
A well-kept man builds trust or is considered an expert in his field. Often,
handsome people are just better perceived.
It can be
considered in many, many fields, but I think good looks aren’t everything.
Cameron
Russell tries to persuade that good looks aren’t everything. Please watch and
tell us if you agree.
Questions:
- Do you agree that looks aren’t everything?
- Do you judge people? Why? If so, tell us about it.
- Do you think judging people (especially based on looks) makes us awful?
- Is your/somebody’s look important for you? Perhaps, it is the most important thing.
Comments
I think this is a good idea not to look different because then people remmeber you. I know people who like making a lot of noise around them and be in center of attention. Everyone has different personality.
I don't judge people basing on their appearance. Maybe because I've met a lot of people who I've find out very polite in spite of their weak look.
Judging people makes us awful. I totally agree and we should everybody stop doing it.
It seems, if you do not judge anyone, nobody will judge you either. But let speak honest, judge others is in human nature. People need to discuss, analyze, recognize others, distinguish between good and evil, and so on. Well, the fact that if you do not judge or condemn anyone, does not guarantee that other people will not judge or condemn you. Of course, often judging others has negative color than positive. In my life, I try to judge people by their actions and behavior, not appearance. In our time, the appearance can be changed as you want. But the fact that some people inside are ugly can not be so easy to fix, which is why, if a person is morally poor, then it isn't important whether he/she is beautiful or not.
When you go to the first date, do you judge only by behaviour? Isn't it important e.g. men would be well-kept and smell nice?
1) We are insecure. This is the main reason we judge.
2) We are scared. Often, when we're scared or intimated by other people, we'll put them down.
3) We are lonely. When you are lonely, you might use judgments to bond with other people, but these bonds are based on negativity. The bonds you have based on judging others are superficial and are not likely to contain true substance.
4) We are seeking change. When we want our own lives to be different, we are quick to judge the lives of others.
I think that we should better follow this rules to avoid judging other people:
- look for the positive
- avoid stereotyping
- focus on your own life
- remember how it feels
I think it is quite natural to do this and we will not be able to avoid it, because it is about the first impression of a person presenting his or her image. The first thing we see influences the first thing we think of this person, so obviously we judge this experience in a positive or negative way.
I never judge people. I think that everyone can do whatever they want to and no one can judge them. It doesn't change anything in my opinion. I also hope that anyone is judging me neither.
I think that judging people makes us rude and awful. As I said it doesn't change anything. People do it just to show what is their opinion about someone, but in fact no one cares about it.
In my life look is the last thing I care about. Honestly, I care about hygiene and things like that, but I'm not trying to be the best looking person.
That's why it's crucial to look good when you're interacting with many people you don't know very well or at all - e.g. during conferences, simply because people will usually have better opinion about you on their first sight, which might be crucial especially if those are not people you see usually.
My look is important for me. I like to choose clothes according to my mood, clothes in which I feel the most comfortable in exact day. I feel myself better when I'm wearing good clothes, so I try to choose them carefully. My outfit makes me feel the certain way. For some other people it's different. many of people don't really care how do they look and it's totally fine with me. The most important thing is the personality, not the look.
Looking at the sentence above you can probably see that I’m in fact judgmental. Although I don’t judge people on their looks. I judge them mostly by the way they speak and behave.
Why? I don’t really know why but I just am.
I think judging people makes us kinda awful but not really, we are only humans and judging people is justified evolutionarily. Because of judging people we can know who or what to avoid.
I think it's not awful if we are focused on more areas than just looks. Because someone can be 'ugly' outside and be beautiful inside. Saying that someone is ugly, looking on outside layer only it's awful. Not judging the whole person.
I want to feel good in my body so it's important to me to look good. But I don't look on others.
We should judge others based on deeds, character, but an appearance is important as well.
It helps us to get attention of other people allowing us to show them later our quintessence - character.
There is even such a famous saying: "Our look is a reflection of our character".
2) Yes, but not only look - for me it is very important how person reacts on different aspects/situations. Body language can tell you a lot of things about the person. I could never hire a filthy person because most of staff won't like to work with him and he would look bad for the company.
3) It doesn't make us awful - look, touch, feel are our basis instincts - we have to learn to listen to them, they are mostly telling us the truth.
In my opinion judging people by looks is meant to keep us safe. We won't approach a person that looks "unsafe" for us. Even though it may be the nicest person ever - if we don't know him or her, we won't come close.
I create the very first opinion about someone based on their looks. But this opinion is just an opinion on their looks. A person's behaviour can change it completely. I try not to say "I don't like him/her" just based on their looks. I always try to get to know them or otherwise I just say "I have no opinion, I don't know him/her"
It is not bad, cause if you are smart enough, you can get the necessary information, analyzing the person's look. I am not talking about the qualities that we got from Mother Nature, but about the haircut, clothes, if the person is clean and neat.
And there is a big difference between "judge" and "condemn". I can my some conclusions, but that doesn't mean I will think the person is bad and unworthy.
achievements and good personallity traits, and even if people will mention your look, that makes it just sad.
This is our humanity and i think it will be very hard to change it. Also other people force us to think about other people like thet want but we have to oppose it.
I totally agree but before you know somebody, you look those person and clothes express ourselves.
I won't judge someone just because of the way he/she looks like.
Do you think judging people (especially based on looks) makes us awful? - Yes it's bad behavior.
For me it's very important, I care about my body, clothes, perfumes and whole "image".