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7 ways to make a conversation with anyone

 Great connections are important in our life. Connections help in everyday life and at work.  I want to share a film about it. 

  1.  Do you have a problem with starting a conversation with a stranger?
  2.  Do you think her advice can make it easier for you to start a conversation with someone?  
  3.  Do you agree with the analogy at the end of the movie?


Comments

Piotr Góralski said…
1. I think I have quite a lot of trouble to talk freely with strangers. It is not easy to start talking to a stranger. We don't know who this person is or whether he likes to talk to strangers. We can even scare someone by starting a conversation for no reason at times. For example, I don't like when strangers start talking to me when I'm in public.

2. The video presents advice that is certainly helpful in establishing contacts. Nevertheless, I still think that the idea of ​​starting a conversation with a stranger is a bit wrong and there are more reasons not to start a conversation than to start one.

3. I agree with the analogy that people can be like books, and that we shouldn't judge people by the cover. However, I don't think we should read all the books. Not all books may also want to be read by others. I believe that we should respect the privacy of people if they don't like talking to strangers and we shouldn't force them to do so.
1. Generally I have no troubles talking with people, but the toughest moments are when I don't know anybody in the place and everybody is focused on something. It's hard for me to approach a person who is doing something as I think I might disturb them. That can be kind of tricky because most of us do something on our phones when we don't have anything else to do, so we seem focused.

2. Yes, I think so. Interestingly, her pieces of advice were different than ones I already knew (even from other posts on this blog) and her approach was kind of more unique.

3. This analogy is totally true. We have the books all around us - the books we read are the people we know, the books we bought but didn't read yet are the close people we don't know (like neighbors) and the books which are in libraries are the people around us, some closer, some farther away. The analogy surprisingly works perfectly and we might change our approach when looking at it from this perspective. Talking with a stranger can teach us really much.
Leya Chechyk said…
I usually don’t since I have a pretty huge experience connected to social interactions and working in groups. Still, I can’t say I enjoy it, as I rather prefer to be involved in a conversation by someone.

I prefer to with the flow. Also, it’s better to analyse an actual situation then learn a certain technic which can be not suitable in the reality. Our senses tend to tell more than a theory from a book.

I agree with this analogy, but I can’t say it works that way. Truly, I usually tend to prove my assumptions about a person when I talk to them for the first time. If my assumptions were true, I would be rather disappointed.

1. Do you have a problem with starting a conversation with a stranger?

I’ve never had a problem starting a conversation with a stranger. Even as a child I was very brave and I could make friends with almost anybody in a very short time. I am a very open and talkative person, and I really like meeting and get to know new people.I find it as a one of the most important ways to know and understand the world. When I talk with a stranger I don’t always do it to make a new friendship but I consider it a new experience.

 2. Do you think her advice can make it easier for you to start a conversation with someone?  

I generally agree with the advice presented in this video. However, I can’t tell whether they would help me if I were an introvert, because for me all these things are absolutely natural and I never think about them, I just start to talk. There is one thing I’m not sure about. The small talks. I’ve talked with many people and I’ve noticed that sometimes you have to start from a small talk, especially if your interlocutor isn’t very open.

 3.Do you agree with the analogy at the end of the movie?

I really like the analogy at the end of the movie and I agree with it. For me the strongest and the most relatable part was about the limitations of our times. I also noticed that from the early beginning of our lives we are forced to keep it short and sweet. At school, during studies and later at work. And I’ve heard many times that it is better to express my opinion as short as possible because people won’t focus for a long time.
Maciej Karnicki said…
1. Do you have a problem with starting a conversation with a stranger?
Yes, I just don't do that if I don't have to because it's stressful for me. Also I don't like talking just for the sake of it, I'm more into listening than talking and I've heard so many people advise to do so! :D
2. Do you think her advice can make it easier for you to start a conversation with someone?
I felt like the advices are more to maintain a interesting and healthy conversation rather than starting one. It would still be hard for me to start one by myself.
3. Do you agree with the analogy at the end of the movie?
Yes and no, some people would be books I'd rather not read.
Ania Rzeczyca said…
I don’t have big problem starting conversation with stranger. Asking random person on the street about direction or getting to know somebody at the party aren’t very difficult for me. But I have more problem with conversation with people which opinion about me I found very important. That’s why meeting my friends parents is a piece of cake, but similar situation is much more stressful if it consider my boyfriend parents. I always overthink what to say, how to behave and so one. And It is ridiculous, because they are cool and like me very much. But I guess I would have to deal with my problem for some time. Hope it wouldn’t take long.

Yeap, her advises may be helpful. I will try to remember about them next time I would have upper problem. They aren’t hard to remember. Seems very logical.
Do you have a problem with starting a conversation with a stranger?

I am very shy when it comes to new contacts. Thanks to my sister, I met a very good friends, despite the fact that they are younger.

Do you think her advice can make it easier for you to start a conversation with someone?

believes that her advice can improve my conversations with other people. however, I am very shy and I try to meet new people but I go with a lot of difficulty


Do you agree with the analogy at the end of the movie?

I agree with the quote at the end of the film. one is that I do not agree that we should read all the books on your subject. I leave all the other people to come up with an opinion on you.



Do you have a problem with starting a conversation with a stranger?
Yes I do have, it is always very challenging for me to start the conversation.

Do you think her advice can make it easier for you to start a conversation with someone?

I think her advice is very true and could be useful, however I believe it wouldn't help me to start conversation easily. I am thinking and watching the person a lot before starting the conversation. So sometimes I think it would seem creepy if I talk to some stranger, that's why usually I never start the conversation.

Do you agree with the analogy at the end of the movie?
Analogy is interesting and I have heard about that before. However I don't agree with that.
Anna Żak said…
Talking to a newly met person has never been a problem for me. I'd rather try to speak than sit in awkward silence. I don’t mean talking to people in public places, but rather at university or at work.

The advice that a speaker on TED video gives is very useful in my opinion. When we’re talking to a stranger, it’s worth just trying to speak. Start with a simple 'hello' and then begin with a easy question that might develop into an interesting conversation. You never know.

I think comparing people to books is very accurate. Each of us has a story within him. To get to know someone, we need to talk to each other, there are no shortcuts.
Bartosz Gołda said…
1. I’m not sure if I have a problem with starting conversations. It’s not something comfortable or natural for me, but when I (kind of) need to it comes pretty easy. When I started studying in PJATK I didn’t know anyone here, because all of my friends went in different directions. I couldn’t imagine studying few years without any close person, so I talked with some people and today they’re my friends. I’m very glad it happened this way, so that I’m not alone.
2. I find few of them a little bit odd. Questions like “How was your first day in this city” at the beginning of the conversation with stranger isn’t the best option. But some of them sounds like they should work and I think I will try them at the next opportunity.
3. I do, that’s an accurate analogy. It’s amazing how many people live in the World and that every person has own history.
1. Do you have a problem with starting a conversation with a stranger?

I don't think so. Maybe sometimes but it really depends on the situation. If I need to ask someone about some thing that is crucial to me at the exact moment I don't have this problem. On the other hand sometimes small-talk with a person you don't know or don't really like is really strange and creepy. I try to avoid such situations.

2. Do you think her advice can make it easier for you to start a conversation with someone?

Yes I think it is very useful and I may use it one day. On the other hand, as I said, I don't think I have a problem making a conversation with someone so I am not sure if this advice would be helpfull for me.

3. Do you agree with the analogy at the end of the movie?

Yes definitely. I know few people that I disliked at first and when I got to know them better they turned out to be amazing friends. In some situations it might be hard not to judge someone by the first glance but I think you can only benefit from that (not judging isntantly of course).
Marek Parr said…
1. Do you have a problem with starting a conversation with a stranger?

Yes. Not only I don't like to talk to strangers, but I'm also not good when it comes to the small talk even with people that I know and small talk is an important skill when it comes to talking with strangers.

2. Do you think her advice can make it easier for you to start a conversation with someone?

I think that her advices may be helpful for some people, but I don't think that they would help me specifically. First of all I'm an introvert, so it's difficult for me to start a conversation with a complete stranger. Secondly, I think that her advices are based on the US culture and they would be hard to implement in Poland.

3.Do you agree with the analogy at the end of the movie?

Yes, because I believe that nowadays we judge people too early based on one tweet or one Facebook post.
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