Ways to make
a conversation with anyone
Confidence is a strong and impactful word nowadays.
Having a real struggle with yourself is the most difficult thing for everybody.
Are you confident enough to make a conversation with a stranger? Malavika
Varadan, challenges this societal norm, by presenting 7 ways to make
conversation with anyone.
1. Are you a “confident enough” person?
2. What do you think about introverts?
3. Write down here at least 3 facts you
like the most in her speech.
Comments
Introverts are really intersting people. They are like challenge for me. I know that when i make a relationship with this kind of people have a lot to offer.
Things which i like the most in this speech is a bit of good humor woven into speech. It makes this really light. The other thhing i like are examples to every advice. It make a feeling that we are listening someone who know about what is talking. And the lat thing is personality of Malavika Varadan. She is very charismatic and it's catchy.
Introverted people are often very interesting to talk to and they have very good ideas but you need to behave in such a way that enables anyone to voice their opinions. For example it is a good idea to ask everyone to give their opinion on a given subject during a group discussion - introverted person often won't force themselves to talk their views but it's worth it to hear them.
I think that her presentations was very well delivered - good diction and energy. She was presenting an interesting point of view for me because I often struggle to find new topics for a conversation with a stranger.
I think that dividing people into boxes which are introverts and extraverts is useless. World is not black and white, it has different colors and shades which are constantly changing, the same is with human psychology and interaction.
What I really liked about her speech was that she was looking at the audience and conducting presentation with her full engagement (unfortunately TEDxtalks has many poor speakers). Another thing that she explained how unnecessary the small talk is and I totally agree with her.
I am an introvert myself and think that introverts is something the world need. A world full with only extroverts would be like a webpage with only front end development.
When it comes to the speaker, I do like about her speech that she gives real life examples and maintains contact with audience. Sometimes she carries on too long, however.
I think introverts are people who simply have lack of confidence and that's what constrains them soo much from living the comfortable life. I think they care too much about other people's opinions and are afraid of criticism. But in reality, nobody cares about you. And people will always criticize you no matter who you are and what you do in your life. So why bother with someone's opinion? Simply do your own thing and don't listen to anyone.
Three things I liked the most about this speech:
1. She is very confident and enthusiastically speaks about her topic.
2. She gives you real reasons why you shouldn't be afraid of talking to strangers.
3. She explains basics of human psychology and shows how this simple principles can help you to get over the fear of talking to strangers.
2. Everyone is as they are. It doesn't matter to me whether someone is an introvert or not. Everyone is worth attention, sometimes even longer
3. The speech was remarkable. The speaker was a confident and energetic person, which everyone who listened to would appreciate. The speech was also interesting because examples were given that helped to understand the theme.
Perhaps everything should be in its borders, excessive excesses may be a great discomfort in people who are less confident.
Introverts are very interesting in general, I think introverts are in a very profitable position, They have always been able to work on self-development and have the opportunity to become extraversion, which will add to their confidence.
If something happens in the case of extraversion, and if their self belief fall, they will be very hard to return to the previous stat quo.
Introverts can become extravert, but extraverts can not lost it. it will be too expensive for any self-esteem.
It is difficult to talk about myself, but I can say one thing, when I was a psychologist student, there was a test and it turned out that I was very introverted, but after I went to Poland, it took me a few years back and it turned out that I was in transition phase for extraversion.
Introverts are the people who don't lead the conversation. They usually have great ideas and generally are smarter than most of the extraverts. People should respect that they are a little bit different and give them some space.
> she is very passionate about the topic
> her argumentation is very good
> the topic she had chosen is very interesting
I really liked her talk especially the positive vibes that she brings and some little tricky advice that she gave. For example to remember some little but valuable facts about the person or to try to guess her/his name.
-Talking with energy
Focus on the topic
she has a full attention of listeners
Introverts often are often very interesting persons, they only didn’t develop their interpersonal skills as well as other more social people, which by no means make them less valuable.
I liked the way she presented the topic by illustrating it with short stories from her life, giving hints and tricks about being more social and wrapping up session with key takeaways.
I think I can't find 3 facts that I liked in her speech, but the thing that I liked the most was her confidence, the way she was talking, not what she was talking.
I don't have opinion about introverts. Everybody are different and it's normal for me. I'm a person which like to be with people but I understand that type which like to be alone. I think that we shouldn't change these people against their will.
Hmmm, I like her smile :) She is gesticulating and it's good way to take attention on that kind of audience.
I do not think anything. Everyone has their own character and I think that it is not dependent on us. I think I'm an introvert but it's not bad.
I think all the facts she said are interesting. The speech was energetic, interesting and humorous. And these are the things I liked the most.
I think so. But not enough maybe, sometimes I need to put myself into uncomfortable situation, to achieve the goal.
2. What do you think about introverts?
I think there is no such thing as introverts or extraverts, there is just environment in which every person can be "confident enough". And for each person there are different quantity if this environments.
3. Write down here at least 3 facts you like the most in her speech.
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Yes, I think I am both confident and "confident enough" person. It is much easier when you are in need of something and this need just drives you to open your mouth first, but in general, I find myself as an easy-going and talkative person, even when there is no strings attached to the conversation.
2. What do you think about introverts?
After watching this presentation I think of them as a less "confident enough" people and it is our job to enstrengthen them. When we find ourselves in the situation with an introvert person, we should be then ones who break the ice and start conversation. It is worth mentioning that we should give up quickly if the person had some problems with opening up.
3. Write down here at least 3 facts you like the most in her speech.
- talking with energy
- passion within this talking
- argumentation
I think we tend to stereotype a lot and we shouldn't be biased on the personality types when talking to someone. Getting to know your personality can help, but estimating others types kills the conversation.
I think the most valuable facts are that we all benefit from talking to each other, so there is no reason not to do it. The other fact was about validating person we talk to, it's useless and unnecessary. Third one is to skip the small talk.
I'm the introvert, so I like myself, but there are many annoying things about being that kind of person. First of all - it's hard to start conversation and it's not making easier during the conversation itself, while I'm sometimes trying to run away from talking too much about some topics that I don't feel comfortable with. Mostly because I don't know a lot about it.
I really like her points to make conversation alive. And the examples from her own experience. But the most was the summary about the impact of conversation - that it may create war or peace.
What do you think about introverts?
I guess I could say that I am introvert in some point. It's a little bit annoying to be so shy to talk or express yourself. But when you've got real life problems and you need to be super social you breaking yourself and start actin like you're not an introvert.
But it's hard to be always active person.
great social skills will outclass you. Same thing happens in IT, where managers earn more benefits
than skilled programmers. What’s the point in judging yourself your whole life?
Boost up your confidence and motivate yourself because that is the only thing that matters in this world.
I don't particularly enjoy her speech, simply because I've learned that skill a long time ago, now I'm focusing on more advanced stuff - I mean, the speach was great, but it's too obvious for me, so I didn't really pay attention to detail - i like her attitude during the speach, positive emotions and simplicity in doing that.
I am very kind to any people, no matter if it's introvert, homeless or anyone else.
Most of intoverts that I've ever met are very smart people.
Speech got my attention because of interesting topic, energy and simple but strong argumentation.
I don't think of introverts in a much different way compared to extroverts. I just think that they have it a bit more difficult in many situations in their lives. They have to fight their fears all of the time, sometimes without any positive outcome.
Some of the things I like about her presentation:
1. She speaks clearly and confidently. She's a natural born extrovert, which helps her keep the talk going without an awkward moments of silence;
2. She is happy and passes her happiness to the crowd - there are many moments in which we can hear an audience laugh;
3. She tries to show the examples from her own experience and give ideas on how to keep the conversations with strangers going ("me too," etc.)
I consider myself a confident person. Very often, I start the conversation. Very often when someone new comes to my work, I try to talk to that person so that she does not feel alone at the beginning. Most often these are ordinary questions, what has been done before, how do you like the office.
Of course, I respect that someone is locked up and needs, more time to make contact and try to make contact and be forgiving, but sometimes it is exhausting when you try to talk, and this person does not show good will.
The first thing I liked about her presentation was a great example with links between people. It's nice when someone can visualize something in simple examples, which helps to understand the subject. Additionally, the speaker was confident and joyful, making it easy to listen.
I think that being introvert is not connected with being shy or confident in the way most of the people think. Introvert and extravert terms are over-inflated, and many human traits are wrongly interpreted with being one or another.
I love the way she gave this presentation, I really get interested in this topic. I think that she was very prepared and really understands what she was talking about.
That's our nature. I accept them because I found myself as one of the representants of introverts. I have lots of friends and love to be around people, but I have some moments when I need time just for myself, to be alone and have time to clean up thoughts in my mind.
I liked: real-life examples, she felt like she know the topic she was talking about, the passion she shared with the audience, you could think from the body movement she enjoys the subject and wants to improve their lives
Introvert prefers to spend some time alone and may appear to be shy to others.
- she has very good argumentation
- she is very confident about the topic she speaks
- speech itself was very interesting