People can be divided into three groups: givers, takers and matchers. A person who is a giver looks for ways to be helpful to other people. Someone who is a taker focuses on taking as much as possible from other people and doesn't give anything in return. Matchers are mix of takers and givers – they will do something for somebody if somebody does something for them.
Adam Grant is an American author and a professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. He wrote a book “Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success,” in which he examines the surprising forces that decide why some people rise to the top of the success ladder while others sink to the bottom.
Adam Grant surveyed over 30,000 people across industries around the world's cultures.
The result was that most people are matchers.
Let's watch his TED talk about this topic:
Questions:
1) Are you a giver or a taker? Or maybe a matcher?
2) Do you know more people who are givers, takers or matchers?
3) Is being a taker a bad thing in your opinion?
4) In your opinion, what is the safest way to live – as a giver, taker or matcher?
Sources:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YyXRYgjQXX0
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adam_Gran
Adam Grant is an American author and a professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. He wrote a book “Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success,” in which he examines the surprising forces that decide why some people rise to the top of the success ladder while others sink to the bottom.
Adam Grant surveyed over 30,000 people across industries around the world's cultures.
The result was that most people are matchers.
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Let's watch his TED talk about this topic:
Questions:
1) Are you a giver or a taker? Or maybe a matcher?
2) Do you know more people who are givers, takers or matchers?
3) Is being a taker a bad thing in your opinion?
4) In your opinion, what is the safest way to live – as a giver, taker or matcher?
Sources:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YyXRYgjQXX0
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adam_Gran
Comments
I think I don't know many people who are givers. In my opinion most of people are takers nowadays. There are a lot of situations when people contact someone just whenever they need help and when someone is contacting them they always have an excuse not to help.
Being a taker entire whole life is the worst thing which can be done. After sometime anyone will help such a person because he will be know as a taker and as a ungrateful person.
In my opinion the safest way is to be matcher. When you're a giver people sooner or later will try to use you to their own aims. Being a taker is rude way of life in my opinion.
I think, that the safest is to be matcher, because you won't be only used, you will also get something in return.
Takers are people, who don;t want to try and give something from themselves, I think.
Depiste that I think I'm giver a bit more that matcher or giver. I like giving. Why? Perhaps because of people's smile? Probably. Sometime ago I helped my friend and to be honest - it was really big effort for me. But I did it because I knew he would be happy and it gave me a power :)
Some of my friends are givers. To be honest, no one from my friends or family comes to my mind as a taker. Is being a taker a bad thing? I think so, I wouldn't like to be a friend with someone like this.
In my opinion being a matcher is the safest way to live. Being such person doesn't increase enemies in your life and may help you in tough times.
I usually act as a giver but when I notice that I’m being used, I get really irritated and tend to act more as a matcher.
However, I don’t think that we can honestly answer to that question because it’s hard to realize that we are egoistic sometimes. I think that being giver matcher or taker depends more on the person we interact with.
For example we are takers in contacts with our parents, matchers for our siblings and givers with our girlfriends/boyfriends.
3) Is being a taker a bad thing in your opinion?
Being a taker isn't a bad thing. You can't be the best in everything. There are also some kind of things that you can't on your own and you have to ask for help someone else.
It is the best to me matcher, because it is normal thing to return in favor if someone helped you.
I have just taken a test and I "seem to have struck a perfect balance between give and take". I always try to work out a compromise. I think that's good. Most of the people I know are matchers.
Is being a taker a bad thing? No, I don't think so unless you are able not to argue all the time :P Many takers I know are people who will always shout and argue if you don't agree with them. I believe the safest way to live is as a matcher or a giver - suprisingly they are givers who most usually end up at the top of the success ladder.
I know that my mother is a giver, she has a lot of empathy for others and very often helps people without expecting anything back. I'm not sure about other people, usually it's not that easy to guess even if you know the other person well.
I don’t know if being a taker is a bad thing, but I’m sure I don’t want to be this kind of person. If someone wants to be a taker, well, why not let him? At the end he is the one who will benefit from that as well as deal with the consequences of this decision. I just feel a little bit sorry for the naive people who would ceaselessly help takers.
The safest approach is probably to keep the balance and simply be a matcher.
2) Hard to say really... I belive that most of my friends and colleagues are matchers.
3) It's okay as long as you are moderate in your taking. If you are not, then we may have a problem.
4) Living as a matcher. why? Because you don't give to much and you don't take to much. Moderation is a key to life.