Probably
everyone has heard about the midlife crisis. Men around their 50s drive bright
red sports cars, chatting up pretty girls the age of their daughter, that’s the
most commonly associated stereotype. Before that , it seems, the adult life was
going pretty well, the goals were defined, everything was as it’s supposed to
be. But is it really? We are in our twenties and have we all found out who we
really are and are our careers starting to speed up and move in a clearly defined
direction?
The typical signs of experiencing this are the following:
- Feeling depressed
- Increased levels of anxiety and stress
- Feeling ‘trapped’ with no way out
Every day you wrestle with that weird concept of being a young twentysomething vs. being an adult.
Here is a
link to the article. You can check the 25 signs of having a quarter life crisis
:
Here is
another one pointing out 25 disappointments of the 25 year olds:
The previously
mentioned Guardian article discusses 4 stages of the crisis, and luckily the
last one advises to devote to newly found interests and purposes in life. If by
any chance you’d need some guidance through your worse period, you can find
some books and online guides.
Do you
think this quarter-life crisis is a ‘real’ and serious thing? Can you see any
those signs in your life?
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Comments
From my observations I can say, that people in quarter-life have anxiety about their career path. So many people are not sure about their’s choice of profession. They studied finances but when they started work it occurred that they don’t even life it. But knowing that they spend 5 years in University, that were wasted now get them stressed.
Moreover, In my opinion people in certain age groups behave similarly. whether they are 20, 25 or 50 years old. Examples of this is the behavior of our parents, who speak a similar language. Our mothers use the same phrases to children.
If we live not good in our opinion we will begin to feel psychological discomfort associated with feeling depressed, increased levels of anxiety and stress or feeling trapped. Sometimes I have similar feelings, but it is momentary and passes me. The crisis is more stronger and long lasting phenomenon. I think that this crisis affecting increasingly and most of people have this kind of feeling. We become more and more a sad society.
But i do not belive in quarter life crysis because from this point of view my whole life is a crysis :) and you 'll be able to divide it to separated parts and call them X-age crysis. In every man life there are some monumental changes that will affect they way of life. In some ways this is a question about happines!
I agree with guys that if you are active, work, study and so on, you just have no time to be sad.
Of course, a quarter life crisis depends on you past decisions, I mean your decisions about you life, such as education, job etc. So, if you love everything you do you probably will not have such strong syndromes of quarter-life crisis.
Quarter life, the age of 25 or something is a moment when everybody starts to have some serious money. When people get married and have children. When your Facebook wall is full of engagement rings, new flat photos and graduation diplomas. Till now it was our decision to follow all the trends or to not. From this moment it's not. If somebody is not in some of the groups mentioned before s/he can't join it without help of others. You can't just decide that till tomorrow you will earn more money or be married. This feel of lack of control can lead to some kind of crisis but I would say it is just a beginning. At this stage of life almost everybody has power to change it if given some time.
But anyways... red goes faster.