2 moths ago I finally moved out from my family home and rent small flat with my girlfriend. I was a bit hasitant at the begining, but overtime I think that was a good decision.
It is widely known that you should at first try to live togheter to see if you are able to spend the rest of your life with that person. There are plenty of articles with tips for young couples who decided to take a next step e.g. For me that was easy probably because we are togheter about 6 years and we basically know eachother very well.
Taking the next step as moving out is a bit risky as
everyone has theirs own habits, especially women tries to convince partner to
adapt to theirs rules, it is important not to lose your temper ( tip for you
guys :D ) ! I am joking, the most
important thing are compromises, you need to settle down specific rules and
both of you should obey them.
Second thing is to
figure out your finances. For example we have create an bank account and we treat it
as our shared account to buy groceries etc. I do recomend that strategy as
money may be an issue in some cases and it would be a shame if your relationship
fell apart because of such a mundane problem.
Another important
case is to have some space just for you, where you can relax and do things
alone, as living in appartment with another person sometimes might be really
tiring and everyone needs to have some free space, to avoid conflicts and weariness.
Last thing which I consider really important is to create some sort of cleaning rooster,
to split household chores. In our case she is a better cook so I am a
dishwasher :D
Do you live on your own or with parents and why ?
What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
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Years have passed, I now live in one of the European capitals, big and beautiful city. I do not suffer from lack of activities here, although that feeling of emptiness never left me. But the urge to return to my parents home never visited me as well. What is that, an adulthood?
When you live with a partner, you must be compromised. Only this will allow you to have a problem-free and peaceful apartment. Many people have a problem with this to be able to negotiate with their partner some issues regarding housing together.
Life goes forward and I do not like watching back. I like responsibility and decision making.
I have been living alone since I was 17 years old. Because I moved to another country to study at the university.
2.What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
I have an average experience of living with my partner. The most difficult is probably the ability to negotiate and distribute responsibilities around the house. Domestic issues very spoil the relationship if you do not talk at the very beginning.
3.Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
Everyone would like to go back to childhood where all that was required was to play, eat and sleep. No stress and worries, except that they just bought a toy. Even my parents remember how good childhood was and they would like to come back.
Because of looking of better life i moved study when i was 18 and living from that moment alone, i mean without parent but with friends :)But i had all finance on start from parents and about a year i trying to figure all out alone
2.What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
for me hardest think it's to find a partner that get boried you after 1-2 month, but maybe it's a problem in my head, aha :)
3.Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
No, i like it, some problems hard life on a start give u a lot of experience, and it will help u later
I live with my parents because it's comfortable. My parents' house is close to my studies. This year I am going to live alone.
It seems to me that the most difficult are good communication and trust. The division of duties is certainly difficult.
I don't know why, but I like duties. It's part of my life. I can't sit and do nothing, so I prefer to stay where I am.
Have a nice day for all of you :)
If you like responsibility that means you are an adult, this is good but wouldn't you like to just go back and be lazy whole week ;) ?
I am not suprised that your parents recall childhood well :)
Now I live on my own. Since I am studying in another country. Maybe that's why, until my duties are distributed, and in most cases I do everything myself at home.
What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
I think you rightly noticed in his article a moment about personal space. With whom you would not live, each person should have his own place where he can retire, or at least do something and so that no one bothers him. it is very important that each member of the family be given such space. Both adults and children.
Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
Sometimes yes, but this is a joke, especially when you have a whole list of tasks that you should complete as soon as possible. But in general - no. Maybe I already got used to it, and I don’t see a problem in these duties. In the end, all these responsibilities are directed to my own good.
Great article, thanks!
I live with my parents. It’s mainly because it’s comfortable and I have quite a good transport to Warsaw and I probably wouldn’t benefit much if I moved to the capital. But I more and more think about living with my girlfriend as we are getting tired of meeting so rarely.
2. What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
I think the hardest things to overcome are some of our habits which might be annoying for the other person, especially at the beginning.
Life example: at the moment my girlfriend is annoyed of my MX Blue switches in my keyboard :-)
3. Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
Yes, sometimes I would like to go back to the childhood, to these days when we wasn’t required to do anything.. However, I also like it how it's now, I just would like to have more free time.
But living with parents is awesome in some points like dinners etc.
2 The division of duties so that everyone is happy.
3. Sometimes I would like to be a child. It's a carefree time only school (though it complained) and fun.
I had different moments in life, both living with my family, my partner, some roommates, so I know the deal quite well.
What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
I guess when he doesn't wash up and sometimes just leaves it all on my head. Also, when living in a relationship, both people need space and it's hard to draw a line that would suit both sides.
Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
Sometimes I would, like on Sundays, when all stuff that was due on weekday amass and you have to plan your next week - that's the moment that I would happily watch series all day :)
Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
I think that when you start to live with your partner, you can finally get to know him/her better. I mean that when you live together all of his/her both bad and good habits come to the surface and the hardest thing in my opinion is to deal with them. Of course, some of these things will suit you but some of them will be probably very hard to accept.
Living with out any responsibilities and not caring about stuff was fun. But I think that it is fun for children and now that I know much more about well everything than 15 years ago the life is much more interesting in my opinion. Also all of this responsibilities and concerns are not that hard to handle if you have a good idea about how to live your life.
I rent an apartment with a neighbor. I had to move out of parents since I moved to study in another country.
2. What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
I have little experience living with my partner. I think most of all spoil the relationship of various household trifles and habits.
3. Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
I think everyone has a period when they want to return to the good old days. Sometimes I visit my parents and can relax, no chores and cooking. But it’s still hard to live like this for a long time, not after I’ve already tried to live on my own.
I moved from my parents 5 years ago. I think this was one of my greatest ideas. When I started living alone I learned I lot of new think and of course, it made a huge impact on my personality.
2. What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
I think, the problem of habits. Because all of us has some list of things, which he/she likes to do. And sometimes those lists could be completely different in your partner and here is the main problem. To find some compromise to deal with it in such a way, that everyone will be happy.
3. Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
Totally no. I like my present state and I don't want to become dependent from anybody, not even from my parents. It could be a bit harder to live on your own, but it is obviously way more funny and interesting.
1. I live on my own. I am 24 years old and I have a job. When I moved from my parents 4 years ago I learnt a lot of things about life. I noticed my changes for the better - I am more friendly, sociable and so on. I do not regret this decision at all.
2. Oh, I can't answer this question because I have never had a partner.
3. I would like to go back to old times - as a child. You can throw everything - your job, study, girl/boyfriend and get rid of responsibilities. This is the life, hah!
I'm pretty young, so I still live with my parents. I'm working, but the money goes mainly for the college fee and my personal things like clothes, cosmetics, books, etc.
What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
I have the partner for almost 6 years and we often travell together, so we experienced some incompalibity when it comes to living together. I think the hardest thing is when the partner doesn't have the same view on the taking care of the apartment, so cleaning, doing dishes, etc.
Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
Maybe sometimes, especially when I have a lot of work, but I prefer being the adult and learning new things.
I live on my own hand, because I came to study and I had to rent a flat and find a job to keep up. Probably if I studied in my city, I would live with my parents because of the cost of living. In my life live on my own helped me to become independent and solve problems alone without the help of my parents.
What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
Common tolerance, but it seems to me that if we decide to live with a partner, we know what more or less awaits us
Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
Who would not want? Living without worries what more to want?
But as I mention everything comes to compromises and simple conversation. We used to travel a lot but living with someone is something much much bigger.
I moved from parents when I was 17, and was one of the decisions that changed my life. Because I quickly become more independent, started to manage my own finances and dived into adult life. That way I developed as a person much quicker and made successes faster than my coevals. I cannot imagine were I could be if I decided to live with the parents.
What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
I think it's routine. Like you should work hard and always find power to make a surprise, to go to the walk to amaze again and again, because relationships is tough work, and if are not developing them then you're destroying them.
Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
No way. I think that moving from parents to another town, made me the one I'm today, and of I would have a chance to return I absolutely will make the same decision again. It's like life changing and the one that was a milestone of my life.
Am living on my own , I prefere it because even if I must to spend more money than with my family, I have more privacy and I can learn how to live alone. My Parents also have more space for them and it is much more comfortable, I can invite my friends whenever I want and do whatever I want. Now thanks to that am independend fully .
What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
Decide how to split finances and responsibilities. At the beginning of the apartment, it can be easy together, you just set the rules and act according to them. Over time, everything can begin to change, no time, new job and all promises are put aside. That is why it is very important to talk to each other, be honest and not hide anything in yourself, is the only key to success.
Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
Maybe for one day or two, I love my life , how it looks right now, I prefere this with whole responsibilities, and possibility to travel or just enjoy fully my life than without any responsibilities but living in "box"
Now, its cheaper, but there is possibility that I will move out
What do you consider as the hardest thing to overcome , when living with partner?
Surving the truth that she has to use a toilet (no sh*t)
Would you like to go back to the good old days, without any responsibilities ?
Yes and No, I have my own independece, and I can do whatever I want. Nobody forces me to do, eat, make, things that i hate