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Week 9 [20-26.05.2019] Can two strangers fall in love with 36 questions?


I recently stumbled upon this video which I found super interesting.  Apparently asking 36 specific questions and four minutes of eye contact is a recipe for falling in love between two strangers. See for yourselves: 



Here's a link to the set of all 36 questions:



Questions:
1. Do you believe asking this set of questions can actually lead to falling in love with someone?
2. Would you be willing to try it with someone? 
3. Do you believe in love at love at first sight?

Comments

What a funny article. I heard something about those questions some years ago, and I still think that it is some absurd. True, they may help to form a certain bond or so. But I do not see me disclosing any personal things with a stranger. I do not do so even with people I know for years. That is the point of personal things -- they are, you know, personal.

I have never fallen in love with anyone, so I do not know how it feels or anything about it. I find women sexually attractive, don't get me wrong. But the more I hear other people talking about love, the more I am glad that I do not concern with such affair. It sounds so... Overcomplicated and troublesome. Or, maybe, I, in fact, did fall in love, but just didn't realize. That is what irritates me the most -- no clear instruction or description on how it works. The whole concept is too abstract.
Nataliya Tkach said…
1. Do you believe asking this set of questions can actually lead to falling in love with someone?
No, I don't believe that I can fall in love because of some questions. I fall in love with deeds, not with answers to questions, because you can lie to them.

2. Would you be willing to try it with someone?
I would like to try with my boyfriend, maybe I will fall in love even more and see that this is for the rest of my life.

3. Do you believe in love at love at first sight?
It seems to me that this is possible, but definitely not with me. From the first look, people fall in love with some external features, eyes, lips, hair, smell, smile, etc. A lot of research is on this topic.
Anton Medvediev said…
people are good in talking about problems, overcomplicated and troublesome, i mean i watch if from past side of me when is all okay u said i am okay man with her, i am in love, but when u had some problem even little u start talk a shit :)

so to understand some things u need to try it, aha :)

I think this way of getting to know someone is interesting. But to truly fall in love, I think that more than just answering questions is needed. It could be a good guide or someone like that would be a good partner.

Yes, it is definitely a very interesting way to meet someone new. What's more, it is a good way to meet someone new in the real world because nowadays there is a fashion for getting to know a person from the internet.

Yes, I once experienced this personally and I recommend that everyone will meet it in life.

Funny movie. I don't believe what I've seen. What is to ask questions in common with love. You can fall in love with everyone. But only true love will survive forever. True love isn't stupid questions, only a shared life.

I currently have a partner and love her so much, so I don't want to try. If I was alone, I wouldn't like to try it. Love is an art!, not a game or experiment.

I believe in love at first sight. My current partner is my love at first sight and we've been together for over 3 years.
Anton Medvediev said…
If i ask myself this set of questions will i fall in love with me ?:)
1. Do you believe asking this set of questions can actually lead to falling in love with someone?
That’s absolutely crazy. Falling in love takes time, takes effort and two matching personalities.
Asking a set of questions, even if it may produce some kind of strange bond between two people, won’t lead to a real love.

2. Would you be willing to try it with someone?
Nope, I am in a happy relationship, and guess what, not a single list of magicial questions was needed.

3. Do you believe in love at love at first sight?
You can like someone at first sight. Some people are just hard to be not liked from the first moment. But love is something more, than just a single meeting. It may come out from an event called „love at first sight”, but surely such situation is not the only reason of this feeling.
Maciej Sadoś said…
To be honest I don’t believe that a set of questions can actually lead to love like it was in the speech. In my opinion creating a true love is a long term process and it can’t be just materialized in a few hours. Like it was presented in the video, just falling in love is easy, but maintaining it and making it real is harder and requires a lot of work.

Maybe if I weren’t in relationship, I would try to do this but only for fun, without taking it seriously.

I think it’s not possible in my case, but probably may be possible for others. For me in the first moments when you meet somebody you just look at some part of that person’s behavior so you can’t exactly say if you love that person.
I am not usre that a set of questions is what can make people fall n love, but once again love is defined by everyone in different way. For someone to "love" an agreeable and passive person who will answer yes to all questions is an object of love interest. I think that question asking takes all the fun out of relationship, and you do ask questions in one way or another anyway. I do ot believe in love at first sight, because i differ physical attraction and love.
Ewelina said…
1. It's hard to believe. I think it is impossible
2. I wouldn't like to try it, all the more stupid.
3. I don't believe in love at first sight.
This is a very interesting article. I will definitely try this method on my friends. In fact, I got acquainted with my wife in this way. From what I remember, our acquaintance was like that. It's funny, without thinking about it, we did it. We asked each other questions that were increasingly personal. It was not in one day, but for half a year. After we started dating each other and looking into each other’s eyes. Thus, a connection appeared between us. And now we have made a choice and this choice is in the interests of each of us. Now we choose each other every time we face a choice. It's funny because love is not just led to spend time, but also to solve problems together. My wife told me about it, she is afraid that my love for her will cool. But this will not happen, because I remember well why I chose she. And in order not to forget this, we repeat the words of gratitude to each other. Together we go to our future.
Anna Koca said…

Questions:
1. Do you believe asking this set of questions can actually lead to falling in love with someone?
I can see that those questions are not random ones. I was expecting something like - what are your biggest goals, or what do you seek in life. Those questions however, seem to be designed with a purpose and going into details, like "Would you rather have boyd or mind of a 30-year-old till you're actually 90"? That gives it a little bit more credibility, still, I wouldn't say that any mind games like this one is actually solid.

2. Would you be willing to try it with someone?
Sure, on a blind date, why not? Just to see for myself if it creates a bond between me and that person. I guess it should be someone I don't have any bond whatsoever prior to the exercise. However, what I would fear, is that my scepticism towards the method might violate the outcome.

3. Do you believe in love at love at first sight?
I do. I think that we send feromones and the person that we "fall in love with first sight" with, also gets what our look means. I mean, we can evolution-wise, scent the feromones heading our direction. That's why sometimes, us girls, say that we could feel that we are being liked by someone only based on their looking at us.
1. I think falling in love is more complicated process. Though the questions seem to be well thought and composed with sense. But it maybe possible for this questions to work for someone.
2. I don't see why not. But only if I didn't know the person before the meeting. This more like psychological test than idea for a date though.
3. Yes, and I believe I had one. It didn't end happily in the end but it was unique experience and I'm glad I had it.
The idea is pretty neat. I belive that asking this set of question can lead to creating a bond between two people but i do not think it is actually falling in love. In my opinion, asking that many question can develop some kind of knowlege about other person, it is probably more than we( at least me) have ever spoken to my "friends" that i have on social media. I would give it a try but i am not interested in it. I do not beleive in love at first sight. I think, at first sight we cannot judge person in any category that is other than looks, so we basically have no information about someone. How we can say it is 'love' which is the strongest feeling of all?
Yana Lytvynenko said…
I do not really believe in this experiment and the fact that it can be done by laboratory. But I agree with the writer from the video that falling in love is simple enough, but keeping and translating everything into love is already the choice and work of every one of us. Maybe the truth is, these questions help to fall in love with a partner sitting next to her, but she can fade away literally within a week if nothing is done about it.
1. Do you believe asking this set of questions can actually lead to falling in love with someone?
Hardly this could happen. Answering questions would help me get to know a person better. Rate it. Perhaps after these questions, I would even like a person, but definitely, I would not fall in love.
2. Would you be willing to try it with someone?
It would be an interesting experience. This method is even suitable for finding friends because the 36 questions can tell a lot about a person and his interests.
3. Do you believe in love at love at first sight?
No, I do not believe. Sympathy can still be. But not in love. In my opinion, love, at first sight, is an assessment of a person’s appearance, but not drinking from the face. Many beautiful people turn out to be complete shit.
This is kinda strange, i think all of it depend on how do you understand love. For me it is impossible. Questions and answers are not enough. You can't tell if they said truth even if they think they did. You don't know what is the way of their thinking just after 5 mins. This process is much more complicated. However i'd like to try it just to see reactions.
Adam Nguyen said…
It could be possible. These questions are very personal so after that investigation people will know much more about other person than majority of couples. But love is pretty subjective, so it's hard to answer that question.

Why not, it could be fun though.

I don’t. Love is a deep attraction between two people and a commitment towards each other. At first sight there is none of this. Attraction at first sight is a thing, but not love and attraction isn't love.
1. Do you believe asking this set of questions can actually lead to falling in love with someone?

I don't believe in this. Maybe, asking this set of questions helps to build quick relationships or helps to better understand other people but not to make them fall in love.

2. Would you be willing to try it with someone?

I am not sure, it could be a really interesting experience. In fact, only by testing it on myself I would know the answer if this is working or no. But as I understand, there are some very personal questions, which I don't want to talk about with strangers.

3. Do you believe in love at first sight?

I think yes, it is true. As for me, I need to know the person first. To understand this person and have some contacts with her.
1. Do you believe asking this set of questions can actually lead to falling in love with someone?
I don't think so. I assume that asking and answering these questions can help people to become interested in other person, but it won't create love. I think love is about experiencing things together, creating strong bond, etc.
2. Would you be willing to try it with someone?
Maybe I would try it as an ice-breaker when meetng new people. It's a fun way to get to know each other.
3. Do you believe in love at love at first sight?
Absolutely not. You can be attracted to someone at first sight, feel sexual tension, but not love.
Answering your questions:

1. Emm, I do not think that asking this set of questions can actually lead to falling in love with someone. It's kind of weirdness for me. I prefer a normal and classic approach to meeting people.

2. No, definiotely not. As I said above, I am classical man.

3. I have not experienced this on myself but I believe in love at love at first sight, because many of my friends experienced this.
There is definitely a sparkle that we can see on the video. But I do not believe that the people really fall in love with these questions. Everyone is individual, and we all have our own ideas about how our partners and us will interact. I believe it is a show. Would I try it? Just for fun, nothing more.
1. Do you believe asking this set of questions can actually lead to falling in love with someone?
Hm I think that its not leading to fall in love , its bigger chance to be enchanted with someone. Its really not that easy to fall in love with someone, because this feeling is very deep so , its envolving in time. By this questions You can meet better someone but its still to short time to fall in love. So I think that by this questions I can decide if I want to meet better someone or not.
2. Would you be willing to try it with someone?
For fun why not ? But if I will do it, I will do it woth someone from internet by video calling or sometyhing , because if I will make any fuckup , I will never meet this person I so I can be extremely honest with it. But with people who I met in live no, I prefere normal talking than testing.
3. Do you believe in love at love at first sight?
Yes I do :)
Peter Clemenza said…
1. Do you believe asking this set of questions can actually lead to falling in love with someone?
So I just have to ask them, and the girl will be provided shortly after?

2. Would you be willing to try it with someone?
I think i will try, but not sober whatsoever

3. Do you believe in love at love at first sight?
For the last 5 years I didn't, but, at the end of last year - in november I have met someone special and
I changed my mind

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