Have you ever been in a toxic relationship? How often
did it happen that you felt overwhelmed and trapped? Maybe someone you love did
not accept you did not appreciate you well enough? Maybe you lost a friend
because he started to meet someone, and you got isolated. Sometimes we do not realize
of huge negative impact of small, seemingly innocent behaviors. Emotions and feelings
are big power, which in a wrong hands can be used to harm other people. In same
way as we learn to walk and speak, every day we should learn how to show our
feelings, care and love in a conscious way. At the same time, we have to be
aware of our wellbeing and negative impact of other people’s wrong behavior.
1. Were you aware of such behaviors in your relations?
2. Have you ever experienced such behaviors from your
partner or close person?
3. What would you do to cope with such toxic way of relating?
Sources:
https://www.heysigmund.com/toxic-relationship-15-signs/
https://www.healthscopemag.com/health-scope/toxic-relationships/
Comments
Not at the beggining at least, but after some times and especially with help from close friends and family one can realize the source of the problem. It can be long process, it may take years even, but at the end you feel only relief.
2. Have you ever experienced such behaviors from your partner or close person?
Yes, my ex tend to be heavily overreacting, seeing problems even if they were not present. Always angry always looking for the hole all over. It was quite self-educating experience though.
3. What would you do to cope with such toxic way of relating?
You always have to stay calm, toxic people don't like such behaviour when they are going to start unnecessary argument. That will make them more angry at the beginning but should help in the long run.
No I didn't but I've heard stories about such behaviors from my friends. It is sometimes really hard to cut it when you go too deep.
I think it's the matter of attitude. You have to just cut the contact but be nice and kind.
2. No, I haven't.
3. It's hard to say, but probably I will try to talk about it with this person, maybe convince him to visit a specialist. If the situation gets really serious I will probably end this relationship.
2. As I mentioned above I have never been in a toxic relationship, but I am aware that they are common not only on private life but also on business relationship. My friend was in a toxic relationship, his girlfriend controlled him all the time, for instance she checked his phone while he was taking bath. In my opinion everyone deserve some level of privacy and such behavior is not only sick but also creepy.
3. There are two options to deal with this problem. You can finish your relationship, but in my opinion it should be final way to handle this situation. Or you can try to fix this relationship. In this process it is relevant to tell your partner how you feel and set limits. Moreover it may be useful to attend couples therapy, statistic show that it really works.
Not really, such behaviors usually will not be in my relations, because I would prevent such relations before they happened, so I simply don't make friends with these people, if they are nice at the beginning and then show their true colours after a time, then I will just break off relations decisively.
2. Have you ever experienced such behaviors from your partner or close person?
No, I haven't as I mentioned in last question, and I don't think it will have chance to happen to me.
3. What would you do to cope with such toxic way of relating?
If you are talking about partner, then I will just find a balance between us and let us mutually understand each other, because relationship should not be like finding the Mr. Right after experiencing 10 toxic relationships, instead, relationship is precious, maybe it is destiny as well, so I would try my best to fix every problem as possible as I can, but all of this are in one condition that the partner should be a decent person first.
The best way to cope with this situation is simply end of relationship or honest conversation - face to face, without witnesses, in neutral place. But when you do your best to fix relationship, and your partner do nothing - it is time to end this. It's hard to forgot someone, but sometimes it is the only solution.
2. No, I have never experienced such behaviors from my partner or close person. And very good!
3. I would talk to my partner about this situation and compromise. If that didn't help, I'd just break contact.
2. As I mentioned above, I didn't deal with such behavior personally.
3. If I will be in such toxic relation and I realize that something is wrong, first of all I would try to fix everything. Understanding and honest conversation are very important between two people. However, if the situation becomes too serious and we couldn't handle it ourselves but we would like to save this relationship, I would ask a specialist for help.
2. As I said above, I've never experienced such behaviours or have not noticed them. It might have led to breaking relations in kind of natural way that was hard to notice for me.
3. Talking seems to be a good thing to at least start with. Maybe the person that is or does toxic things would change the way they are if they were more aware. However, in more extreme cases breaking up might be the way to go.
Fortunately, I've never experienced such behaviours. I always build my relations on honesty, thus if I would ever notice this way of behaving I'd just have honest conversation with the person and if that wouldn't help there's no other options than cutting the toxic relationship out of your life.
2. As i mentioned in previous sentence, yes i experienced such behaviors from my partner. I stumbled upon many situations when I tried to help my friends who were in toxic relationships. Sometimes it was even difficult to enlighten them that they're in toxic relationships
3. I would always keep an eye out on people's behavior whether it's towards me or my close friend or my family
2. No, I don’t think I have.
3. Classic: if it bothers you – talk seriously about it. If it doesn’t help and after some time and some number of similar comments nothing changes and you start feeling miserable with this person – leave them behind, they can’t or don’t want to change.
2. When it comes to toxic behavior in my relations, I could give an example of my (once) best friend I met in high school. We began to move away from each other when he met a new team of people, what in conclusion resulted in isolating themselves from me, of course along with my very best friend. In the end, the situation was so hopeless that we completely broke off contact with each other and we're not talking to this day. I regret it very much, but it wasn't my decision.
3. I think that honest conversation is always the best solution to these types of problems. If the other person doesn't want to talk, then we have to observe. Maybe we can notice even the smallest detail, thanks to which we can save our friendship or even love. If the behavior is very toxic, then we can always ask for help or advice from other people close to us. We can contact specialists such as a psychologist who will definitely help us in some way.
so when i heard more about typical toxic traits i asked myself "Is anyone from my close circle toxic for me?". And I started analyzing my friends and family behavior. And to
be fair the moment when i realized that I was, am, and unfortunately will be
surronded by toxic people was pretty harsh. Later i realized that some people don't change and i stopped trying to fix them.
My advice? If a certain peron is too toxic and doesn't want to change, just cut them off of your life. He/she will just prevent you from growth and probably will block you from normal and happy relationships.
2. No, I haven't.
3. First of all, to talk, if it doesn't help, I'll break off.
2. Yes, I have, maybe not that extreme but definitely similar.
3. I think the best way is just to talk to the person and work this through together. If nothing works, then I think there is only one way - separation from that person.
2. No, I haven't.
3. I see only two solutions. This person will change or I will break up with this person.
2. As I answered in question one I was in such relationship and it didn't last long.
3. There are only two solutions. Firstly toxic person would change his/her behaviour. If it didn't help I would probably break up.
2. Happily, I’ve never experienced such behaviours from people I love and I really hope I’ll never experience that.
3. If you ask me I think that it’s very hard to say what would you do if something happened, unless it happens to you. Probably I’d call a specialist for the good advice. I would be really careful and safely leave toxic person.
2. Unfortunately, Yes. I experienced excessive jealousy, my partner limited my communication with friends and turned me against the family.
3. One way might be to talk to that . But more often a good relationship requires hard work on the part of two people. However, if a person does not want to change or go to meet you, then communication with him should be minimized or stopped altogether.
2. Yes and unfortunately, I think similar to Katie Hood when it comes to statement that every person experience it both on receiving and giving side.
3. It all depends. There is some extent to which we can tolerate toxic behavior of some people. Sometimes it doesn't bring much harm and we mutually really care about each other. Sometimes people aren't even aware, that what they are doing is wrong or harmful. Everyone has his boundaries through and if those are broken we should simply sever relationship with said person as fast as possible. If someone hurts us and is bad for our health, it's quite simple from my point of view - we don't need them in our life and there is no need to bother with what they think about it.
Yes I was aware of them. Those signs of toxic relationship mentioned in the video aren't something new. I think the best way of preventing such behaviour from occuring is just listening to your partner.
2. Have you ever experienced such behaviors from your partner or close person?
Definitely not as crazy as those depicted in the video but a bit lesser forms of it, yeah, I might have.
3. What would you do to cope with such toxic way of relating?
I would talk and listen. I think this is the key. Obviously sometimes it just won't work. Then you have to get out of such relationship as fast as possible.
2. No I haven't
3. In my opinion, the best way to deal with problems is by simply talking. If both of partners decide to fix their imperfections, in my opinion, there is no problem to fight for a relationship. However, if one of the people does not want to change, you just have to break contact with him/her.
2. No, I haven't.
3. It is important to draw conclusions from such a relationship. The more people we meet, thet more we know. We have intuition that we can trust. Thanks to it, we will avoid toxic relationships and people and we will not waste time on them.
2. Sometimes I experience such things from my partner.
3. Talk or divorce.
But this is the good story and there’s a lot of bad ones. If you see all (or almost all) of those markers in your partner - you better run. Ask you friends or family to support you and run away as fast as you can.
In my personal life, I have not seen this. It seems to me that this has not happened to me. But I witnessed such a relationship. Probably because it’s more visible from the outside, and such details are very clearly visible. In some cases, the outcome is known to me, and it is not very good, it is true.
2. Have you ever experienced such behaviors from your partner or close person?
As I said earlier, I have no such experience. Maybe because I tried to prevent this at the very beginning at the stage of meeting a person.
3. What would you do to cope with such toxic way of relating?
And as if it is very simple to do, but in fact, when a person finds himself in such a relationship, he usually does not notice this. As for me, two ways are most likely possible. The first is of course to get rid of such a relationship. The second way is very difficult, and probably you need to work a lot here, as the speaker said. First of all, you need to realize that you are in such a situation, then make a decision.
I do agree with Katie Hood. She clearly described the issue in video, she said "Unhealthy relationships and abuse are all around us. We just call them different things and ignore the connection". And this is in face true. From my perspective, most of us face up with it but we simply don't give attention.
2)INTENSITY and JEALOUSY were serious signals in my relationship but I was misunderstanding it.
3)I can say that it's not the best way to deal with it by ignoring it. I'm not in a hurry to make a serious relationship, rather i'd prefer better understand personality
2. Like it was said in the speech, all of us can make mistakes and certainly will do some of them sooner or later. It depends on us if we are able to learn on them and as it was said "understanding is the first step to improving".
3. It depends on so many different aspects how to deal with such a troublesome relations. First of all it depends on kind of certain relationship. As it was said it can be relation with your romantic partner or with your family members or friends. In my opinion there is no such a thing as universal advice for everyone but if i have to give somebody any advice on this topic i would probably say to both listen and communicate. If there is no open communication and honesty it almost certainly would not work properly for you.
2. Yes I did, but I ended that relation quickly.
3. Talk with other person or just end it if it doesn't work.
This is why with emotional, toxic people very often talking makes no sense, they are blind to their guilt.
I believe if you meet such people on your way - you need to break off relations with them immediately or try to talk to them and solve the problem. Such relations affect your physical and mental health badly. Most often, after such behaviour there are problems with self-esteem.
No, I never experienced such behavior in my relaions.
2. Have you ever experienced such behaviors from your partner or close person?
As i said before "No, I never experienced such behavior in my relaions."
3. What would you do to cope with such toxic way of relating?
Key to success is simple, talk to each other and see if you are made for each other.
I have had one serious male-female relationship in my life. It's fun, there are no disturbing behaviors in it. We must remember that we are people and we often do stupid things, we say something that we regret after a while.
I don't know, but it seems to me that I may not be aware of certain behaviors from people close to me. Certainly something like this happened once.
I believe that conversation is the key to solving problems. An honest conversation can change a lot, but often requires admitting mistakes. Both people should talk to each other honestly and then they can solve any problem.
2. This is not a topic I would like to talk about in public.
3. I would probably lock myself in the garage and tinker with the car. :)
2. Unfortunately, I have. And I don't want to say anything about this problem.
3. Most problems in relations can be solved by discussing with your partner and will to change yourself and your relationships.
2. Recently dropped out from one relationship like that:)
3.It is easy for me - just delete it from your life if the other half is not willing to work on it as hard as you do.
2. No
3. I think that conversation should be first thing to solve such problems. If it won't help, maybe it will be better for both sides to finish this.
2. I know only one example from my friend. His girlfriend was oppressive and she was telling him which friends are good for him and which are not
3. First of all the relationship should be built on trust not oppressive "law". This is the fundamental cause.
There is no place for such sick behavior in my relationships. I am very restrictive in this respect. Just if someone seems strange to me, his behavior becomes notoriously ill, I try to end such a relationship. I think that's a good solution. I don't want to hope and then fail me.
2. Have you ever experienced such behaviors from your partner or close person?
No, I've never experienced such behavior from a partner before. As I wrote before, I avoid such people.
3. What would you do to cope with such a toxic way of relating?
I would just try to end this relationship. If certain limits are exceeded, it is better to end the relationship. Especially if I'm at such a young age. Of course, the second way is to repair the relationship. You can use professional therapies for couples. However, this is a very long process (minimum one year) and often does not bring results.