Living
alone- what dio you think?
I left my parents’ home about 1,5 year ago and I rented a flat by myself. I was sure I needed space just for me and I haven’t changed my mind at all. Of course, sometimes there are bad days, but after all I think everyone should try it at least for a short period of time. The fact is that there are 2 types of people: lonely-lovers and those, who need another person by their side.
Some people feel like they can’t
live alone, they are getting tired staying all alone and they feel
uncomfortable when there is no one in the house. That is understood, as it is
said we are gregarious animals. In group of other people we feel safer, we can
laugh, cry, work, cook, relax and so one and it makes us happy. Contact with
different people is very important for our development and not to get crazy,
but as it said- silence is golden. To the advantages of living with flatmates
we can add allocation of work. One day/ week you have to clean up home, do the
shopping, take out the trash etc, and next time you delegate it to another
person which of course is easier if you have a support and when you know that
there is always someone.
On the other hand, there is a bad side as well. You are not guaranteed that you will get on together. Sometimes it happens you can live with someone you don’t like anymore even if you were in love or best friends living separately. Here becomes a problem when people living together are in a habit of doing totally different things- one person needs her place to be clean, full of natural plants, fresh smell and the other doesn’t care where her dirty socks or dishes are. This is a short, funny movie about things which might happen with your flatmate.
On the other hand, there is a bad side as well. You are not guaranteed that you will get on together. Sometimes it happens you can live with someone you don’t like anymore even if you were in love or best friends living separately. Here becomes a problem when people living together are in a habit of doing totally different things- one person needs her place to be clean, full of natural plants, fresh smell and the other doesn’t care where her dirty socks or dishes are. This is a short, funny movie about things which might happen with your flatmate.
On the other hand there are people who love living alone, this is just another kind of lifestyle. If you want to live happily alone you need to follow some rules. The most important thing is to remember that everything you need to do or buy cannot be delegated. You can’t count on someone to help you permanently . The other thing is to keep your house clean, not to leave those things to do later but wash the dishes just after having finished eating- it takes less time when it is fresh. You can’t forget about trash, especially when you leave for holidays. Unfortunately, it happened to me, I forgot to take it out when I left for 5 days- I don’t want to remember that smell after I got back… Advantages of living alone? Of course, independence. No one can tell you what and how to do things - you are setting your time table. You don’t need to care while learning for an exam all night to walk in silence, to make coffee in a way that won’t wake others up. You can learn a lot about yourself and if you need to complain, you can go out or invite someone to your place, that gives you freedom and kind of your own world. Check this out:
As you can see there is no perfect solution for everybody, first of all you need to get to know yourself (which In my opinion is the best way while living alone ) and then decide, what is the most comfortable for you. I hope you enjoyed my article, here is the discussion:
- Are you living alone or with flat mates, fiancé? How do you like it?
- What do you think of changing that?
- How would you describe the best flatmates?
Comments
When I was traveling I was renting apartments and sometimes stayed there by myself, and sometimes friends I met there were staying over or just visiting. I find that set up to be perfect and very convenient.
The main negative of living alone, however, is the price you have to pay to rent a decent flat. It basically makes half of your salary disappear ;-) and is the only reason why I didn't move out yet.
I used to live alone, while I was in Brussels. And loved it. I've leraned a lot about myself, my strenghts, ambitions, but also my "bad side", at what am I weak. That was a very good thing.
But then I had to find a roommate. I found and ideal one, we worked together, laughed. We never had any kind of a fight, wich was amazing. I was cleaning dishes in a morning, she was doing them in the afternoon, after lunch. Once a week we would clean whole apartement. And then I came back to Poland. I started living with my boyfriend, who soon enough became fiance, and now is my husband. And again, we divide house works: he does the dishes, but I do all laundry, etc. Anyway, I like it very much. I do tasks that I don't mind about, and same does he :)
2. What do you think of changing that?
In my situation it would be rather difficult, ha ha ha,
3. How would you describe the best flatmates?
Oh, I had only two of them in my life, and they both were perfect in their own way... I think that you just need to communicate with them well, not be affraid about telling things that you don't like, and just divide house work....
I will describe the best flatmates, briefly: the people in the apartment are cool on the weekends in the party. Then there is a loud and fun and it is good. When I come back from work or in the evenings I'm doing extra projects I need silence. I have my office, which is only mine.
I live with my sister. She's absent every week days so it's like living alone. I want to rent flat on my own because I don't like like living with anyone.
2. What do you think of changing that?
I want to change my living place for small flat where I would live on my own.
3. How would you describe the best flatmates?
No flatmates. I shared room when I had to move for summer holidays for nearly three months and It was terrible.
But sticking to the point:
I live with my family. I do agree that it is convenient because we can split responsibilities and we know that we can rely on each other, which may be an issue in case of living with friends. Of course this solution has pros and cons - lack of privacy, we have to share and agree on our plans. But living together is great because it's your family and it keeps us closer.
Of course I'm thinking about changing it, I think everybody does in some point of their life. But I cannot imagine living alone, it just not my cup of tea - I like to have companionship, preferably human one.
The best flatmates - in my opinion family is the best one you can get. Spouse, partner, brother or sister. This is the perfect training before the "adult" life and gives you an opportunity to work out a scheme which fits you all. Friends as flatmates are risky because it can change suddenly, you can have your differences which affect negatively on your relationship.
A little tittle-tattle for the end: http://joemonster.org/images/vad/img_28063/549e76179c7dfa114e9ed0996afd6637.jpg
At the present moment I still live with my family, but in the near future I'm going to reside with my girlfriend in small flat.
What do you think of changing that?
I think that this change will not be easy, because each of us accustomed to the behavior of the family home. I am a person who often mess but my girlfriend likes tidiness. I think that while living together mess would be a common cause of quarrel.
How would you describe the best flatmates?
In my opinion the best flatmates must take care of cleanliness and able to cook. It would be nice if he/she liked a good kitchen and good music. I think, it is important to establish a good relationship with the person with you live and to respect her/his and her/his work.
I live in with my girlfriend since 3 years now. I did not know what to expect at the beginning but now I know that it was a good decision to make. Everythinng is great so far. I have some experience living with other students few years back when i was doing my bachelor degrees. Yeh old good times... I remember James, Simon, Dan from my first house. I can describe living with them as "one big mess". I liked them alot but living with them where hard. Just like the picture above...
What do you think of changing that?
Back to my girlfriend now... No. She is the best flat mate I ever had... and I had many.
How would you describe the best flatmates?
Its depends what exacly do you want to know about them. Crazy, funny, party animals, outgoing, irresponsible... I could say much about them, each one was different in its own way. Maybe they where not as adult and calm as I am now but hey.... don`t forget why students go away from home to live with other students.
Interesting map, thank you .
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